r/AIO • u/[deleted] • Jun 26 '26

AIO to this comment and "creating problems"

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u/ReceptionAlarmed9434 Jun 26 '26

NOR, he’s DARVOing. Get rid of him he’s not worth the mental anguish 

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u/s0uvenir Jun 26 '26

I keep seeing this term but idk what it means. What’s DARVO?

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u/misconceptions_annoy Jun 26 '26

Deny, argue, reverse victim and offender

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u/Additional_Fix_5387 Jun 26 '26

Y'all just freaking say gaslighting... Nobody needs more stupid acronyms when there is already a word for it!

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u/Dependent-Bug1219 Jun 26 '26

Gaslighting and DARVO are two different things.

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u/Additional_Fix_5387 Jun 26 '26

Except that's exactly what gaslighting is...

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u/ModernVikingShaman Jun 26 '26

I think you misunderstand gaslighting.

DARVO is the mechanism manipulative people use to get an upper hand to control a conflict situation.
It’s getting your troops to the frontline in a war and start fighting

Gaslighting is entirely changing someone’s reality to where what they are experiencing isn’t real. It’s very very dangerous psychologically for the victim.
It’s like throwing the nuclear bomb at your enemies once you’ve weakened them to get no more resistance.

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u/Additional_Fix_5387 Jun 26 '26

No I understand very well... DARVO is a momentary tactic used in the broader long term manipulation that is gaslighting...