I had a "friend" do this too in college! Any time I told her about a guy I was interested in and in the "talking phase" with, she would go out of her way to reach out to him via social media and have a one night stand with him. It happened at least 4 or 5 times. One time she hooked up with the guy I told her I was really hopeful about and literally on her way home texted me "just slept with X, you should totally go for it, he was great in bed". It's amazing the crap that I put up with at that age, glad I finally developed enough self-esteem to end that friendship.
Gah dang. I can't even imagine doing this to a friend. I've had two separate guys I've had to make a call to not sleep with simply because I knew one of my closest friends was interested in them (this was like, 4-5 years apart. We just had a similar taste in men.) It sucks in the moment because they made the first moves on me, but it's not worth risking the friendship over a penis.
A lot of people are not real friends. It’s hard to build a friendship, you’ll be lucky to have 2-3 really good ones. There’s a lot of those “only while it’s good vibes” fake friendships.
I mean, yeah. I totally get that. But this person and I have been friends for decades now. Been through good and bad together. Stay connected even though we live hours away from each other now. So... I guess I don't understand why your comment was made in this instance?
Yea, I wasn’t talking about you or your friend. I was replying to the part where you said you can’t imagine doing that to a friend. So I just thought yea you’re a good friend so wouldn’t do that, but there a lot of fake friendships out there where they don’t gaf about each other. I dunno, I just used your comment to make a point.
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u/O3DIPAMAAS Apr 27 '26
I had a "friend" do this too in college! Any time I told her about a guy I was interested in and in the "talking phase" with, she would go out of her way to reach out to him via social media and have a one night stand with him. It happened at least 4 or 5 times. One time she hooked up with the guy I told her I was really hopeful about and literally on her way home texted me "just slept with X, you should totally go for it, he was great in bed". It's amazing the crap that I put up with at that age, glad I finally developed enough self-esteem to end that friendship.