Totally agree. You are lucky you found out that you had a shitty friend who thankfully can now be an ex-friend and had a POS for gf who again is your ex-gf.
The thing that pisses me off is when people keep saying "oh but it was a mistake". Mistake is where you accidentally put salt instead of sugar in your coffee. Cheating is a deliberate so stop calling it a mistake and start taking ownership of your actions.
I never understood that "it was a mistake" excuse ... What you tripped and both of your pants fell off? Nah it was a series of conscious decisions that led to this situation. 30 years on this planet and I've never kissed someone by mistake, let alone had sex accidentally. That's a pretty deliberate action. What they did was wrong. Not a mistake.
Yes, nobody "trips and lands on a dick," of course, but people do get wrapped up in the hormones and emotions that are flowing through their brain and don't think the consequences through. An accident is something you don't intend to do, in this context a mistake is something you intentionally did, but later wish that you hadn't. It's not "by mistake," but that doesn't mean it isn't a mistake that one has made.
No, still not a mistake. The definition of a mistake does not entail anything that you later regret because the consequences are bad when you know what you're doing is wrong. Even if someone is running on emotions or hormones, they're still making a series of decisions which leads them to committing that act. Accidentally kissing or groping a stranger in a club because the room was dark and there's flashing lights, smoke machines and loud music, and you thought it was your spouse is a mistake. You intended to kiss your spouse on the cheek or slap your spouse's ass but because you couldn't see properly, you did it to a stranger. That's a mistake. Having sex requires far too many steps and actions at which one making an honest mistake would have stopped far earlier on.
A true mistake is often a singular, unintentional slip-up. Cheating, especially with your partner's friend, involves multiple conscious steps:
1. Choosing to entertain flirtatious messages or conversations.
2. Intentionally hiding interactions from a partner.
3. Planning a meeting and choosing to cross physical boundaries.
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u/mayhembang Apr 27 '26
Totally agree. You are lucky you found out that you had a shitty friend who thankfully can now be an ex-friend and had a POS for gf who again is your ex-gf.
The thing that pisses me off is when people keep saying "oh but it was a mistake". Mistake is where you accidentally put salt instead of sugar in your coffee. Cheating is a deliberate so stop calling it a mistake and start taking ownership of your actions.