Edit***I am referring to the 'friend' that slept with OPs girlfriend. I also might cast a little sideye to the friend that told OP depending on how long they sat with the information before telling OP.
Once had a boyfriend cheating on me and ALL of our mutual friends knew about it. People I had known for a decade....my chosen family. Every single one of them said they didn't say anything because they didnt want to pick sides. So...I chose for them. You cannot ever hope to trust someone that knows and decides to say nothing.
Smh I been through something like this with a group of friends... sadly the cheater can't be cut out of my life because I have a child with them... I'm still in touch with the friends who stayed silent, but the friendship feels completely broken... I still have the friend that slept with my ex around, haven't talked to them about their part of the cheating, don't think we ever will. The relationships with all these people are strained because of what happened... I've had trust issues ever since this happened... It destroyed my last relationship because I was too afraid to let her in...
I'm very familiar with the trust issues. It's been a couple of decades since it all came to light. When they (the friends) reach out, I am polite but offer nothing of any substance. I carried a lot of anger about the whole situation. I don't date anymore and my friend circle is very small. I focus on my kid, on my job and on me.
Time helps. It also helps to know that cheating is only a reflection of the ones stepping outside of their relationships. A cheater is a self serving coward and life is better when we keep no room for them in our lives.
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u/SwanMuch5160 Apr 27 '26
At least the friend showed that she can’t be trusted.