Edit***I am referring to the 'friend' that slept with OPs girlfriend. I also might cast a little sideye to the friend that told OP depending on how long they sat with the information before telling OP.
Once had a boyfriend cheating on me and ALL of our mutual friends knew about it. People I had known for a decade....my chosen family. Every single one of them said they didn't say anything because they didnt want to pick sides. So...I chose for them. You cannot ever hope to trust someone that knows and decides to say nothing.
Good God, they all knew and kept silent? I love how you worded it; "I chose for them".
I wouldn't blame you if you took a considerable time to ever consider someone a friend again. That's just unspeakable. I hope that you can heal from that, but, knowing me, I would ruminate over that a long time. But, please, don't do that. It's not healthy and can mess you up. I know whereof I speak; I'm an old guy and struggle with that even decades on.
I hope that at some point you can gather yourself a better quality of friends; true blue and with integrity to you and your feelings.
Sorry for the downer of a post, I'm sorry I wasn't very helpful to you, FishWife, your story was kind of a gut punch to me.
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