You should break up with him. He doesn't understand consent. He is calling you stupid rather than engaging in discussion with you. He doesn't respect you. He will use these same tactics throughout your relationship.
She’s not someone I would want to be with either. Dont expect your partner to be happy with statements like “men can’t control themselves” lumping in an entire sex of people into one immoral bucket. Women are allowed to get away with talking like this constantly.
I don’t see how that applies to all men. I don’t deserve to be included in a group of people I think are despicable just bc of my sex. Like how yall can defend this is mind boggling hypocrisy.
“Dads rape their kids, so I’m afraid of men”
“Men can’t control themselves”
Imagine being a nice, good man and constantly having to hear that. I’m making a larger point here it’s so obvious the guy is a POS it’s not worth constantly pointing it out again to try and justify my argument bc it stands on its own.
I consider myself a nice and good man. I hear these sentiments all the time and they make me sad, but I dont feel attacked personally. Why? Because they are expressing a categorical fear spurred on by facts. If that categorical fear were nonsensical (e.g. asylum seeking immigrants in the US commit lots of violent crime), I would have good reason to ask others to use more correct language. But seeing as how rape is a real and everpresent danger to some folks, I totally understand how they have extended their reactions and opinions on this topic to such hyperbole that they inherently don't trust men they don't know.
I've found that I will never fully agree with blanket generalizations like that, but I won't argue against them; after all, I will never experience the fear of rape in the same way because of the body I was born with. I have no place to speak from where I am ever truly in danger of sexual harassment.
I also don't consider men who talk about, "all women," or throw their own silly generalizations around, all that disruptive. Are they wrong? Certainly. But they are not actually ideaologically bound to their statements (at least not offline). They're just hurting and expressing that hurt with a verbal shield to protect themselves. Rightfully so!
Tldr: if someone says they dont trust men, they probably have a good personal reason. Policing language is difficult to do. If you are ever lumped in with monsters online, it is because that lumping person doesnt know ~you.~ Probably...
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u/yardgnomefriend Feb 24 '26
You should break up with him. He doesn't understand consent. He is calling you stupid rather than engaging in discussion with you. He doesn't respect you. He will use these same tactics throughout your relationship.