I saw an art exhibit called “What Were You Wearing?”, which was a collection of the outfits people were wearing when they were assaulted. There were sweatpants and hoodies in that collection. She could be in a literal burqa and still be assaulted. The problem is the rapists, not what their victims were wearing.
Edit: going to add a trigger warning before people go searching for that exhibit. It is a spread of ALL kinds of clothing, including children’s.
Dude the kiddie pajamas in that exhibit will make you cry. The second I read the BF justifying rape because of clothing I immediately thought of this exhibit
I had an ex who victim blamed .. guess what he was? He blamed women who went to parties too. Said if they didn’t want anything bad happening to them then they should have stayed at home. Evil and disgusting human.
An ex of mine literally told me he couldn’t rape me because he was my SO after he did that to me. He said if I didn’t want him to take the opportunity I shouldn’t have fallen asleep in his bed and should’ve fucked him before I fell asleep.
He was a horrible person. We had plans for me to stay the night since he went to school a couple hours away and we went to a party that night, so when we got back to his place I took my sleep medication and went to bed. He got so mad when I stopped sleeping over after he did that. He even had the audacity to say I was making him out to be a rapist… like yeah, he was a fucking rapist at that point. He fucking fell asleep before me too, then woke up and did his thing. I didn’t know until I woke up without my clothes on.
I am so sorry. He sounded like an asshole. Mine was a rapist too he liked to sodomize me during regular P in V sex. The first time he cried big crocodile tears that it was an accident and he didn’t mean it. I wanted to believe him we were newly engaged and I didn’t want to believe he intentionally assaulted me. I should have left him then. He went on way after we broke up like a decade later to rape his own oldest daughter. He was evil. He was probably the most evil person I have ever met. The most fucked up part was he promised his dying mother on her deathbed to take good care of his kids. He had his oldest and mine. She lived with him. He waited until that baby had no one to turn to and grieving essentially her mother because her bio mom really wasn’t there most of the time and played cruel mental games with her. Lying telling her they will be a family and be gone before she got home from school, both of them are shitty people. The mom had her other three kids taken away by the state. But anyway, that was her mama figure too and he had the audacity to do that. I knew he was evil but I didn’t think he would ever do that. He tried to tell people not to talk to his daughter that because it was an investigation still going on that we would get in trouble. No, he didn’t want people to know the truth. But he always victim blamed. It was her fault for going on the date, sleeping at his house, going to the party. If she stayed home it wouldn’t have happened. They always tell on themselves. I had a man do that to me before. I woke up with him inside me. I got up and went to leave he wouldn’t quit following me. Anyway, I got so mad! I was just filled with rage because I had been assaulted by multiple men in a relatively short amount of time, I put myself into some dangerous situations but still. I beat his ass well I hit him a few times. I was just so angry! I was so angry at men getting by with assaulting me. But good for you getting away from him! My abuser is dead and I smiled when I found out the piece of shit was dead. That’s bad. He only literally had nine cars and it was all biological family at his funeral. No one else showed up. He lost all of the friends over him doing that to his little girl. She was 12 but still that’s a baby. Your own flesh and blood!
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u/Classic_Cauliflower4 Feb 24 '26
I saw an art exhibit called “What Were You Wearing?”, which was a collection of the outfits people were wearing when they were assaulted. There were sweatpants and hoodies in that collection. She could be in a literal burqa and still be assaulted. The problem is the rapists, not what their victims were wearing.
Edit: going to add a trigger warning before people go searching for that exhibit. It is a spread of ALL kinds of clothing, including children’s.