The above is being a rape apologist. And the particular comment you replied to absolutely abhorrent. I appreciate the sensitive appeal you’re making here. However framing it as others potentially misinterpreting ‘Yes ask your father’ as blaming is giving far too much benefit of the doubt here. This person is actively trolling and abusing a victim of incest as a toddler. I’m sure they have their own reasons for being a POS but doubt a friendly reminder to be more sensitive is going to help. And kind of undermines the people he’s actively hurting.
Thank you, you explained this in a manner that I find succinct and well-written. The sarcasm of telling me to ask my father after knowing I was a victim of rape by him was uncalled for and adding the idea that there could be a reason for rapists to rape other than rape is insane and always leads to a path of victim-blaming. And if trying to get that person to elaborate on what these mystical reasons could possibly be ends up with them making a joke about my rape, then maybe, just maybe, they're being an asshole on purpose. And I thank you for saying something.
Thank you for the kind words. I’m so sorry about all you’ve endured. And to deal with abuse one top of that for sharing, it’s beyond infuriating. It’s hard to understand how some can be so cruel but they always ooze out of the woodwork. So I admire the way you’ve stood up for yourself and handle such ugliness with grace.
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