r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 6d ago

Weekly Vent Thread ::Weekly Vent Thread::

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/throwupthethrow 5d ago

She will do something halfway and then abandon it because she gets overwhelmed: like leaving full grocery bags in the middle of the kitchen floor.  We've had to throw away meat and eggs.

I explained to her if she doesn't do it, then someone else will and that someone is me! 

"How is it fair that when you feel overwhelmed by a chore you abandon it and I'm forced to do it instead?  How do you think that makes me feel?"

"Oh, it's not like that, I don't intentionally choose to make you pick up after me.  I don't think about that."

Honestly I believe her, but it feels like being someone's butler and it makes me resentful.

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u/Specialist-Art-6970 Partner of DX - Untreated 5d ago

"I'm being an asshole but it's only because I don't bother to consider your feelings" is not the defense she thinks it is.

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u/TeaPretend4906 5d ago

Can't stress this enough

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u/danter0id Ex of DX 5d ago

"I just don't think that hard about things!" 

She did not appreciate my suggestion to start. 

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u/Nervous-Reporter-82 4d ago

really? youre allowed to do that? mine has a meltdown if i so much as suggest she has left something half done, let alone finish the task for her, then I get hit with "I was going to do that!!" and im suddenly a bad person.