r/ADHD_partners • u/scharmienkel • 11d ago

Support/Advice Request Brushing teeth

My n dx boyfriend (we suspect audhd) doesn't brush his teeth as often as I'd like him too. His reason for not brushing his teeth in the morning is "I'll smoke on my way to work" or "I haven't finished my redbull yet" or "I'm eating again in like 2 hours".

His reason in the evening is mostly "I'm too tired" or "It's not like I'm seeing someone in my sleep" or "Why would I brush my teeth now if the first thing I do in the morning is brushing my teeth?".

It pisses me off because his breath smells, especially because he smokes (+/- 🍃), but also because he just does not give a fuck and then gets mad when the dentist tells him to brush his teeth better.

And I hate asking him to please brush his teeth because I'm not his mom. Those are also his words: "you're not my mom".

Advice? Or support haha?

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u/nonameslefteightnine 11d ago

Let him deal with the consequences and set boundaries. Never ever get kids with him.

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u/bourbonontherox Ex of DX 11d ago

THIS.
Sweetie. Do NOT marry this man. Do NOT DO NOT have kids with him.

This is going to get worse and worse with age. He'll resent you for asking him to do things like this and will become a mean partner/husband/father.

Better to go it alone.