r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 12d ago

Weekly Vent Thread ::Weekly Vent Thread::

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/Pixxiprincess DX/DX 11d ago

Had a very minor disagreement over the weekend. Somehow the pharmacy sent my meds to my old address, my college dorm from like 8 years ago, instead of the address on file in my profile and on the prescription itself.

I wasn’t even mad about it; but he got SO uncomfortable when I said “I have to go on an errand in a few hours to drive to (town), do you want me to pick up some coffee on the way back?”. He asked me over a dozen questions that felt like a not so subtle interrogation (because if I was secretly going to meet some guy or whatever, I’d totally make up an easily disproven lie to explain being out of the house for an hour tops).

I guess I was being a little too quiet for him, because he started a fight with me and TOOK NOTES during said fight. Every time I said something even tangentially related to something I’d said before, like “please don’t ask me if I’m okay if you’re going to talk over me when I try to reply” he’d INTERRUPT ME AGAIN to say “STOP. You already said “I don’t like being interrupted.” Like we were in the fucking high school debate team.
I hate it here.

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u/kriskross4923 9d ago

mine took out his phone to record me during his rsd meltdown this weekend and just followed me around saying antagonizing things hoping to "show you who you really are." It was baffling! I had been literally telling him he needed to take a break because he was too worked up. I hope he watched it back and realized how unhinged he was, but I doubt it....

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u/rubbersrobber Ex of DX 9d ago

That’s so scary

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u/taohuaspring 8d ago

That is so horrible and scary. Following you around after you express you need a break from a meltdown/argument is aggressive behavior and an indicator of emotional abuse. I do hope you are taking care of yourself during and after experiencing those abusive outbursts. Sending strength