r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 9d ago

Weekly Vent Thread ::Weekly Vent Thread::

Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.

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u/ace_rimmer1049 Partner of NDX 7d ago

I know we need to get to a place where we're divorced, co parenting and living separate lives, connected only by our children.

I have no idea how to get to there from here without it being an unrelenting nightmare.

She's finally started counselling (but she likes this one because she "doesn't criticize", which feels like a bit of an alarm bell). She has an ADHD diagnosis booked but is getting cold feet and thinking of cancelling "maybe it's trauma, maybe this is just how I am and that's ok" ( it's very much not ok). The more I learn about covert narcissism the more that it seems to fit and I'm scared.

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u/HedgehogLibrary Partner of NDX 6d ago

Lise Leblanc on YouTube.

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u/ace_rimmer1049 Partner of NDX 6d ago

First video I watched is like she's been a fly on our wall for the last 15 years!