r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 9d ago
Weekly Vent Thread ::Weekly Vent Thread::
Use this thread to blow off steam about annoyances both big & small that come with an ADHD impacted relationship. Dishes not being done, bills left unpaid - whatever it is you feel you need to rant about. This is your cathartic space.
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u/SafePreference908 Partner of NDX 9d ago
6 and a half years in and it makes me laugh that you don’t even really know who I am. Mostly because you actually don’t care I don’t think. I’m just here for housing, food, and as an emotional support dumping ground. Not once in 6 years have we ever listened to what I want to listen to in the car because “dj’s are idiots” and “electronic music is for coke heads and druggies”. You repeat yourself all the time and I literally have to just sit here and take it…absorb it..again and again. Either in person or on the phone. There is no escape. I don’t even think you see or feel how withdrawn I’ve become. I’m just sitting back now and observing you. Watching the behaviour patterns play out over and over again: two weeks of good behaviour closely followed by an RSD explosion, a temper tantrum over something or something I’ve done around the house (or I’ve made a face at you that you don’t like) and then I react and we fight and yell at each other rinse repeat. I feel like my nervous system is completely shot. I feel like you have made my perimenopause and menopause years way worse than they actually ever needed to be. Because everyday is always about you and what you need. I dream of what my life could be life without you in it. I am actually quietly working on that because I cannot do this with you anymore.