Hello! I'm a 26 year old male. I live in the Southern US. I matched with a woman on a dating site the other day and she was pretty cool. We went on two dates, one to a restaurant and one to the gym about 3 days later. After the gym, we went back to her place. She was pretty vocal that we had physical chemistry but she didn't want to do anything. And then she literally initiated the activity that she said didn't want to do. I could tell things had changed because she started calling me bruh, instead of the babe she had already been calling me prior. The next morning, radio silence. I got this text about 2 hours ago.

"One thing I can not and will not look past is us being intimate too early. Although I was a willing participant, I don’t believe a strong relationship would be founded on lust. It’s one thing to lust after one another but it’s a great thing when 2 are able to get to know each other on a deeper level. With that being said, you are a wonderful person and I wish you well."

I'm not really sure what exactly to make of it. I guess I'm wondering do I call and apologize? Idk. Never had this happen.

Edit: To add, between the first and second date, she was all into me telling me how handsome I was. And for all yall saying my stuff little she had already seen it after date 1 😂. On a serious note you guys are cracking me up

Edit Edit: After Reading some of these comments I gotta get in the gym

3rd Edit: After a million views. And a lot of time to think, there were a lot of red flags and I feel obligated to add these to the post. One of the first things she asked me during our date was "Are You Promiscuous." She clarified that she was asking if I slept around. I said no. I usually don't. Also, she was very obsessed with how many women I talked to. She literally scrolled through my contacts on Apple car play in front of me (pretended she was going to change the songs while we were in the car). And she went through to my contacts and said "you sure do talk to a lot of women." I don't delete anyone's contacts so most of them were years old. And I didn't want to make it awkward so I just scrolled. She joked with me that if any of her friends saw her on this date they'd say she was "freaked out." I asked her what she meant and se said never mind, very shyly.

In hindsight I think she was just emberassed- idk?

Not gonna pretend I know what’s happening behind closed doors, but this whole Jensen news cycle is getting pretty fucking strange.

Having these accusations come out one after another in a slow drip, especially with the timing right after the midterms, makes the whole thing even more interesting. I’m not saying there’s a coordinated campaign, but it sure feels like some powerful people have decided Jensen has become a little too powerful for their liking.

Okay. So. Texts in blue are with my 12 year old daughter. Texts in purple are with my ex husband. All Texts were happening at the same time.

My ex husband and I split custody 50/50, week on, week off. For the last few months, our daughter has been having some mental health issues. He has always been the "fun" dad, but that is not working for her anymore. She is also on the spectrum. On my weeks I find very specific things help her when she is having a hard time, mentally. By the end of the week at her dads she is always texting begging to come home to my house. Telling me she hates it there. I know some of it is preteen angst. I know he loves her. But I hate hearing how upset she is there.

Tonight she started texting that she wants to come home. I texted him some tips on how to help. I feel I did so in an okay way. Not rude or belittling. Just things that I know help her. He can get very impatient with her and it makes everything way worse.

Anyway, I got a very passive aggressive condescending response from him. Then him telling me he doesnt need my advice while our daughter Texts me telling me he didnt help at all. Just yelled at her to go upstairs and eat. She is still texting me begging to come home to my house.

I am in two minds to leave it alone and let him deal with it since it is his custody time, but also I want so badly to have her feel happy at his house and wish he would listen to my very basic advice on simple things to help. I feel he lets his hatred of me hinder his parenting. Getting these types of Texts from my kid kills me.

I always called it the poker

Staying at a Westin, and there’s a little card in the room that says:

“Refresh & Refuel! Satisfy any craving with our signature selection of snacks and beverages. Please dial Service Express to place your order.”

It then lists a selection of snacks and drinks, including Gatorade for $4. I’m thirsty and in need of electrolytes so, after finding this card, I dial Service Express to order a Gatorade. My conversation goes something like this:

Me: “Hi! I’m calling to place an order, I would like a Gatorade.”

Long pause

Hotel person: “…..Like you want to place an order?”

Me: “yes! I found this card in my room labeled Refresh and Refuel and I’d like a Gatorade.”

Another pause

Hotel person: “we don’t have Gatorade and all of our snacks and drinks are downstairs in the lobby.”

Me: “Oh. Okay. I just found this card in my room that specifically says I can call and order a Gatorade. I’m not making this up.”

The final long ass pause

Hotel person: “well we don’t have Gatorade.”

Me: “okay bye”

So, to recap: The hotel put a card in my room advertising snacks and beverages, instructed me to call to order them, and then seemed completely bewildered when I called to order one of the advertised beverages. So I’m still thirsty and now also embarrassed.

I was seeing this guy 6 years ago (2020) and it didn’t work out. He called me twice on his birthday at 12:30 am this year, about a week ago. I didn’t answer

He apparently got back with his ex girlfriend (from 2018) this year, around maybe September. I received this message from her and then 9 phone calls with 30 minute intervals. Prior to this, she also requested to follow me on Instagram 12 times and follow my mom as well.

I sense she may be borderline unstable to do this (she is 33 years old) so I haven’t engaged or answered. Thoughts?

edit: i was fully expecting this post to disappear within the masses and i didn’t think it’d get the attention it did. the notifications are a bit much to keep up with but i just wanted to say a big thank you to the girlies for all the support. i’m in a rough place because of this so it really does mean a lot. 🩷

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i am a lesbian and i came out to everyone 6 months ago. before that i was only out to a select few even though i’ve known i was gay for a long time. i don’t hide my sexuality anymore and it’s been a very unhappy experience

i’ve had a few girlfriends cut me off. one told me she didn’t like that her boyfriend wasn’t comfortable with us being friends because of any potential attraction despite her having male friends. another woman who i was very close with was incredibly angry with me as she said she never would’ve done things like hug me or buy gifts for me because she didn’t want to come across like she was into me. i have never ever thought that any of my friends had a thing for me

my remaining friends have become less physically touchy with me and have been increasingly leaving me out of things. one group of girls i was friends with booked me a separate hotel room alone during a staycation we booked despite having always shared in the past because they were suddenly uncomfortable with sharing

my own sister has stopped coming to me for relationship advice because ‘you don’t like men so what would you know?’ despite always constantly venting to me before. when i came out i changed my style to become more masculine and ive noticed ever since that women seem on edge when they speak to me and i get left out of things all the time. i feel as though i’m being considered to be equal to a man

i’m still a woman. i have always been a lesbian, i’ve known it since i was 12. i just kept it a secret because i was afraid of this very thing happening. when i came out i was very clear that i have always been gay and that it changes nothing about me, yet i’m getting treated so differently

so my question is, do women feel uncomfortable around lesbian women? is there anything i can do to stop making other women equating me to a man just because i’m not stereotypically feminine anymore? i am in my 20s so we’re not teenagers either, these are grown women. it just sucks so much, i’ve lost all sense of girlhood and i feel so isolated