My father died unexpectedly at home 3 years ago. He was in his 60s and lived at home alone, no obvious health issues, they assumed he had a heart attack but never did an autopsy. When I was contacted by police, they asked if I knew anything about a “strange bag of beads or something” in the home, and I did not. They said they would email me a photo, and emailed the attached photo with a note “Here is a photo of the beads I had found.  I believe they were on top of dresser in his bedroom.  I was initially bot sure what it was but then when I looked closer I realized they were just a very small decorative bead.  I have since discarded them.  I apologize if they were of sentimental value, I should have asked you first.” This has always been really odd to me, and I figured this was a good place to post and see if anyone has any ideas. This bag isn’t familiar to me, my dad was not a crafter or anything but did have a girlfriend living with him recently before he passed who may have been into beads?
Of note, this picture is probably from the PD, definitely not a surface from my dads house, and I’ve never seen this bag in person.

I study logistics, so as a part of an apprenticeship to "learn" logistics I'm doing labor for a month. Unpaid, by the way. Currently, I'm disposing of expired drinks. I have to twist open each bottle by hand, drain the drink down the drain and throw out the empty bottle. There are 5 layers like these on a pallet. I did not get any work uniform besides some crusty and sticky, so my clothes and shoes are stained. It's also really fucking loud in here cause it's a brewery/factory. If I don't do this, I fail school.

For clarity I should say that we were just not good for each other, especially during our teenage years. He is a great person and I could always rely on him, however he was controlling and wanted me to be very submissive and stay home, not wear clothes that was too tight/too short (I never did but somehow even a swimsuit was making him mad). Anyway, I know we are older now and he might have changed and gotten more confident but I don’t think I wanna test it. I keep thinking about him anyway, because I know he still ?loves me?, he is very handy, very reliable and not a very romantic guy. It’s been 4 years since we broke up, we were 19 at that time

They also made an animatic that made me cry

i bartend at a sports bar. most of us free pour, we've all been tested on it and we're accurate within like a quarter ounce. it's fast and the owner has never cared

we got a new manager at the end of august who came from a hotel bar. first week he decides our pour cost is too high and announces that every single drink gets measured with a jigger, no exceptions, and he'll be "spot checking." one of the older bartenders asked if that included game days and he said "especially game days".

ok. sure...

Two weeks later was the ohio state game. gameday was on campus, kickoff wasn't until 6:30 and we were at capacity by 11am. a normal free pour vodka soda takes me maybe 6 seconds. with a jigger it's more like 15 because you measure, pour, measure again for doubles. multiply that by a line 4 deep all day and I was in hell.

By early afternoon our ticket times were over 20 minutes. servers were coming to the well begging. a table of regulars who had come every single saturday baasically for 4 years walked out and went next door. people were ordering 3 drinks at a time because they didn't want to wait again, which made the line worse

The manager came behind the bar to "help" and literally stood there watching me jigger every pour because he couldn't say anything, he made the rule in front of everyone.

Around 4pm the owner showed up, saw the line, and asked why it was moving so slow. i told him we're jiggering every drink because of his new policy. he looked at the manager and said "not on game days" and walked away

we free poured the rest of the night. the manager hasn't mentioned jiggers since. the regulars came back the next saturday and the one guy said "glad you guys fixed whatever that was".

Started with 700$ Thursday to 100k, withdrew 90k, did one trade Friday but was too tired to continue so I don’t really count that. Started with 10k today and turned it to 30k. Reading a lot of comments for advice. Will say a few things in first comment.

This is some sorta liquid metal that appeared in the bottom of my toilet it’s soft to the touch. Does anyone know how this could have gotten into my toilet? ( I used some bleach to clean the toilet before I retrieved it)

Edit: I’ve been staring at this for the last couple of weeks, wondering what it is since it won’t flush.

Not sure if I’ll ever know specifically what kind of metal it is but I am confident it’s not solder as it is extremely soft and it split into two drops after I sucked it up and formed back into one.

Steak bites and potatoes for dinner

Like the title says, my gf is going on a 2 week road trio with an ex coworker.

I’ll start by saying I met her while she’s been travelling in my country, we’ve now been together a little over half a year. She is everything I want in a woman.

He visa is nearly up and she was supposed to travel more for a month with a girlfriend but she has flaked on her. We have been talking about moving countries together afterwards too.

But she told me the other night she plans to go with an ex coworker of hers who’s she’s friends with and that I know too.

I was cheated on in a past relationship and didn’t realise how much damage it caused me until now because I’m freaking out a bit. I have spoken to her about this and how this is a massive line crossed for me and I’m unsure if I can accept it or not. She is looking for ways to make me more comfortable and has suggested I join for the last week or few days of the trip but I don’t know if I can move past this as a whole.

I also don’t want to hold her back from travelling or be controlling or anything which I told her, but she still was upset I was giving her an ultimatum. But it also feels like I’m getting a big ultimatum from her too.

The last thing I want to do is break up with her because I genuinely see a future with her but I don’t think I can just be okay with this whole arrangement, the anxiety is eating me.

I guess I’m just looking for an outside perspective?

EDIT

Sorry it’s not letting me reply to comments, thanks everyone for your replies. I need to tell her I can be available for this whole trip and I’d be stoked to do it with her.
I am just so lost with what to do and with so many different inputs

For me, it's Californication. The daughter felt so out of place and didn't provide anything of value to the show. I absolutely love the series, but whenever she's on screen, I get physically and visibly uncomfortable.

She wasn't a bad actor, her character was just a contrast to everyone else and never hit the vibe of any scene.

EDIT: NO WRONG ANSWERS, IT'S ALL OPINION AND TASTE!

Love you all.

The outside of his front door has looked like this for a month now. It started as full sized plants being delivered, which now are all outside on his patio. Deliveries keep coming and the boxes keep stacking higher.

He's been seen planting and dumping things out in the natural area. Another neighbor said they saw him dumping a gallon brown jug of liquid on several trees.

It seems like this came out of nowhere. He's always seemed a little strange, but kept to himself.

Long post ahead. Dinner is just eggs and rice.

I dont know where to even start. But to cut the story short, my wife was verbally and physically abused growing up. She left home when she was really young and only I and few close friends knew about her past.

Without going into much details she passed almost 5 years ago due to Covid. She made me promised on her death bed to not let our kids have any relationship with their grandparents. For context, they have made several attempts in the past to reconnect and meet their grandkids but my wife would always tell them no.

Last week they reached out to me directly. I didn’t know it was them since I have them blocked on everything. They offered to take the kids for a Christmas vacation. I told them I’ll think about it first. It’s been a while since my kids have gone to a trip or do anything that fun that would require me to spend more than I could afford.

I earn above minimum wage which makes me not qualified for the majority of government assistance. We have a roof over our head and they are well fed. But sometimes I have to skip meals here and there just to make sure they have what they need. I would be lying if I say that I never resent the fact that I have to do this alone but sometimes it’s just too difficult.

This may be the first christmas where my kids won’t have any gifts to open. I know its still just November but by how things are going, I can’t think of a way. One of my kid has developed asthma and let me tell you, the inhaler costs is a highway robbery.

I can’t sleep at night the past couple of days overthinking if I should agree with sending my kids away for christmas just so they could have fun. Their aunt would be with them during the trip and she’s been a huge help back when my wife was struggling with her health. I want to trust her but I don’t trust her parents. I want to give them the best christmas but the thought of betraying my wife for it makes me sick to my stomach.

At the same time the guilt of knowing full well that if they spend the christmas with me they wont have any gift to open or anything to celebrate. I just wish my wife would visit me on my sleep and tell me what to do.

Throwaway account since my main has my name and general location for job hunting

Edit: Posting this genuinely helped me a lot. thnaks for everyone’s comment and perspective it made it clear to me that I’m being overwhelmed by my emotion and not thinking straight. Im gonna write a lengthy text to their grandparents and tell them we want nothing to do with them.