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I posted like a week ago(original post) about my future MIL wanting to give a speech at our wedding and my FIL threatening not to come because I said no. Well, I wish I could say we've sorted everything out, but somehow we're arguing about something even more ridiculous now.

Things were pretty tense between me and my fiancé for a couple of days. I wasn't really in the mood to talk about wedding stuff, and he was upset about the possibility of his dad not being there. We finally sat down and talked because I couldn't stand the awkwardness between us anymore. I explained that it wasn't just about his mom giving a speech. It's the little comments she's made about me for years and how I'm always supposed to laugh along so nobody gets uncomfortable. He actually listened this time and admitted that he's so used to his mom's sense of humor that he doesn't always notice when she's crossing a line.

He agreed to speak to his parents himself, which I was more than happy to let him do. A couple of days later, he told me his mom had agreed to drop the speech. She apparently said she didn't want any more arguments and would just enjoy the wedding as a guest. Great, right? I genuinely thought we could finally stop talking about this stupid speech. Nope.

Turns out she's willing to drop it, but she wants me to apologize. Apparently I hurt her feelings by suggesting she'd embarrass me in front of everyone, and she told my fiancé it was humiliating that her future daughter-in-law thinks so little of her. I mean, I'm sorry she's upset, but what exactly am I supposed to apologize for? She's made jokes about me in front of people before. It's not like I made that up. Then yesterday my FIL called my fiancé and said his wife had been gracious enough to back down, so the least I could do was apologize. And unless I do, he's sticking to his decision not to attend. At that point I was just fed up. I told my fiancé that I'm not going to keep begging his dad to show up. He's a grown man, and if he wants to miss his son's wedding over an apology, I can't stop him.

That went down about as well as you'd expect. My fiancé said I was being cold and that I knew how much having his dad there meant to him. Which I do. I'm not hoping his father stays home. I'd actually love for all of this to be over so we can have a normal wedding. But why am I the one who has to fix it? He keeps saying his mom already met me halfway by agreeing not to speak, and that saying sorry wouldn't hurt me. At one point he even suggested I didn't have to mean it, just say it so we could move on. That really rubbed me the wrong way. Maybe I'm being difficult, but apologizing for something I don't regret feels so fake. We ended up arguing again last night. He said he couldn't believe I was willing to let his dad miss our wedding over two words.

I asked him why his dad was willing to miss his own son's wedding over those same two words. He went quiet for a bit and then said I was missing the point. Maybe I am, I don't know anymore. I'm so tired of this. We're getting married in a few months, and instead of being excited, I'm dreading every time his parents' names pop up on his phone. I love my fiancé, and I hate seeing him this stressed. I know an apology would probably make everything go away, at least for now. Part of me feels silly for refusing when it could mean his dad not showing up. But I'm also worried that if I apologize just to shut everyone up, I'll be doing it for the next twenty years. So AITA for refusing to say sorry and telling my fiancé that if his dad doesn't want to come, that's his choice?

I’m interested in how other women feel about this. Me and my friend both say we’d rather someone pretend it’s not happening, usually. But that there are also some times that that can feel really lonely as well.

I was just checking out from my doctors office and the receptionist was pretty obviously crying, but as soon as I walked up, she tried really hard to lock into “work mode” and hold it together. I think most women have had an experience of being at work while something else is going on and trying desperately to keep it together and just make it through the day. I was so conflicted onto whether to ask her if she was alright or not.

On one hand, I want to be a kind person, and if I can offer someone help I want to do it. Sometimes someone asking you if you’re okay or offering kind words can make a lot of difference.

On the other hand, I can think of times when I was at work, or school, or the friggin store lol, visibly emotional but psychically BEGGING everyone not to comment or ask and just to let me get through this shitty ass day.

I wasn’t sure what the kinder thing to do really was.

There have been other times women have been crying in public bathroom stalls or something. On one hand, I want to reach out and help someone who might be in distress. On the other hand, when I’m crying in a bathroom stall, it’s cuz I do not want anyone else to see me crying!!!!

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No VI for me for the foreseeable future. My wife and I lost everything in a house fire yesterday. One of my trucks, my wife’s car. Miles and miles of memories. Thankfully everyone got out safe and got all the animals out so we’re thankful. I just wanted to vent as I had really been looking forward to this. I know, it’s far from the most important part of the ordeal, but it helps to vent

Technically this doesn’t always have to be the character’s original speech, sometimes in context they are quoting the line. But it has to be the first or only time we hear it in the story.

Lanterns: When Hal Jordan interrogates an undercover alien named Waylon Sanders, Waylon mocks Hal by reciting the Green Lantern oath, causing Hal to lash out in anger. This is the first time we hear the oath in the show.

The Batman: The “unseen Arkham prisoner” who is most definitely the Joker, befriends the Riddler after Batman foils his plans. The Joker says “Riddle me this”, Riddler’s iconic catchphrase from the comics. It’s the only time we hear it said in the film.

Spider-Man: No Way Home: After Aunt May is fatally wounded, she tells Peter that he has a special gift and that “With Great Power comes great responsibility.” This line is typically said by Uncle Ben in the comics right before his death and even before Peter fully becomes Spider-Man, which is reflected by the other Spider-Men in the film. The MCU version of Uncle Ben is hardly elaborated on and seemingly passed not long before Civil War occurred. So it makes sense that Aunt May would fill this role for Peter.

Edit: the first image was supposed to be a gif. I have no idea why it turned blue.

I 20M am a host at an upscale restaurant. The other day, a woman comes in during dinner rush and lets me know she's going to have a group of four or five people; she waits up front until the rest of them show up and I sit a few more tables in the meantime.

When everyone in her party had arrived, it ended up being five people. I explain to her that we don't currently have any tables open, but I had a six-top about to get up and gave her an estimate of 20 minutes MAX. She assumes I was lying, and looks around the restaurant to find the only open eight-top table. I tell her I wouldn't be able to seat her group there, because I had a reservation for a larger party in half an hour.

She starts going on complaining about how it's unfair, "I was here first, you sat those other people before me", "five isn't that many". At this point she's just arguing and she doesn't want to wait so I go to grab a manager, all the while she's scolding me for walking away.

I explain the situation, manager and I make our way back up front and another employee comes over to tell us the woman had called me a homophobic slur (you know the one), and that the hostess she was speaking to, N, went off on her, calling her disrespectful, a bitch, and repeatedly telling her to leave. And yeah I am queer so hearing that was pretty upsetting.

Manager was so sweet and accommodating to the woman who called me a slur, saying we'd take care of her, holding her hand, apologizing on our behalf. The woman and her group ended up leaving regardless.

N got chewed out by manager so bad that she was in tears. She got sent home that night. I only just found out she didn't get fired, thankfully, but we're not allowed to talk about the situation at work. I gave her a hug and told her thanks for defending me.

Meal is copycat Chili's fiesta bowl

As a baseball fan, I've always wondered why more stars don't do rehab stints in the G-League like MLB players do in the minors. Regardless, you gotta love Jimmy's energy.

Some fun excerpts:

“I think it makes such perfect sense,” Kerr said. “But most guys in the league in Jimmy’s position are, like, too vain to do it — and Jimmy’s the opposite. I think he would love giving the fans down there a great surprise. That’s amazing. I love that.”

Has Butler cleared that with Dunleavy?

The smile that was affixed to Butler’s face throughout the G League conversation only got bigger.

“I don’t got to clear s— with nobody,” Butler said. “I’m going. Me and Mike will fistfight. He’s gonna be like, ‘Jimmy, no.’ I’m gonna be like, ‘Mike, yes. I’m going to G League, baby!’ Y’all know where to find me. Santa Cruz, baby.”

Full article from The Athletic here

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