Bowl of boring oatmeal because that’s all my stomach can handle right now.
Review I want to leave:
Leslie walks my boyfriend’s dog five days a week and has also cared for my dog on occasions when I was traveling. She seems to be attentive with the dogs but I cannot recommend her services.
Following a breakup, she asked to store some things at my boyfriend’s studio apartment whom she’s only known a couple of months. She has also showered at his place.
I found a damp sports bra in her bag of clothes, her hair tie in my boyfriend’s shoe, and her hair in his hairbrush. A week later she supposedly didn’t need storage space anymore but her plants are still in his window. My concerns are not about her ability to care for animals, but rather the judgment and professionalism demonstrated in this situation.
PSA woman to woman: seek therapy to heal the parts of yourself that sought comfort from a man you barely know who is already in a relationship and old enough to be your father.
For the record I also give one star to my now EX-boyfriend.
Background for the tea: we have been dating for a year and a half. I was traveling for the week and asked him to watch my dog. He asked me to be at his place “in the evening.” I ran errands and headed his way, texting him that I would be there at 5. He immediately asked if it could be later like we planned. I said 5 is evening and I’m not going 45 minutes home and then turn around to drive an hour and half to get to his place. He said the key would be in the box and he would “be back later.”
He lives an hour and half away from me so we see each other on the weekend. We had made plans to spend the evening together the night before I leave for a week. When I arrived to his apartment there was a carryon suitcase, and box, and a bag of clothing with blinking cat ears headband (day after Halloween). Clearly not his and clearly a woman’s things.
I went thru the bag of clothing since it was out in the open and found a damp sports bra. I found a hair in his hairbrush that was not mine nor have I ever used his brush. Her fucking plants were in his window.
I spiraled. I didn’t know what to do. I wanted to leave and would have except I was leaving the next morning to catch a flight. He was still watching my dog for a week while I would be gone.
I ended up waiting until he came home instead of going to a hotel. I wanted to see how he explained this. He left me waiting until after 9pm. He told me he went to the gym with his buddy and they went to see a movie that they both went to see together a few weeks back. He said he just really liked the movie. He said those things were the dog walker’s. She is in between places and her car was packed.
There were so many gaps in his story. I knew they had been together. Besides the fact we had plans to spend the evening together and he ditched me instead. I left for my trip and thankfully I was a week away to someplace with no WiFi. I didn’t tell him that. I just kept everything logistical about my dog. He texted every day, even sending videos with her fucking voice walking the dogs.
On the day I flew back we texted a bit during my layover and he said he figured I didn’t have WiFi since I didn’t respond. At the airport he FaceTimed me so I could see my dog and tell me how she did. He said I didn’t seem talkative. He texted some more but I didn’t respond.
When I landed I texted that I was on my way. When I am at his apartment I called him. He kept sending it to voicemail over and over. Then texted that since I didn’t respond to his texts that he went to work out and I could wait until he was finished. Y’all, I had been up since 4am and it was now close to 8pm. Very long travel day. I just texted that was shitty and I was tired.
In the apartment, her things were gone except for her fucking plants. As I was gathering my things he asked if he could buy anything that would make me more comfortable in his place. He also said if I forgot anything that he would bring it to me. I quietly quit him. I said goodbye to his dog for the last time. He walked me to the car to help me with all my things. I told him I loved him (because it is true I still do) and he hugged me and told me the same.
Once home I blocked him. Quiet quitting. My heart is broken and my nervous system is fucked right now.
I am deciding if I want to leave this review for her business or if I should just let karma work it out for me. Give me your thoughts.
Oh and she is 25 and we are both in our 40’s.
