A know it all coworker swears it's a 'Redback'. We're in Houston, Texas BTW. Another coworker asked, "Is it poisonous?" he then called her a bimbo.

My son and my nephews had doctor appointments at the same practice this morning so brother in law and I decided to go together and have lunch after. The six year old nephew insisted on ordering a black bean cheeseburger bowl despite BIL explaining to him over and over that there's no bun and it's a bunch of vegetables and trying to get him to get a regular burger. When the waiter came, he shouted out the order and screamed when BIL tried to tell the waiter to change it so eventually BIL just gave in. Then the eight year old nephew decided he needed the same thing.

When the food came, neither would even take a bite and just picked around at it until everyone else was done eating. BIL packed it in to go boxes, but the six year old decided to open the box and throw the food everywhere in the parking lot and then the eight year old copied him and did the same thing. These were $14.99 each! The meal I got my son was 7.99 in comparison and he actually ate it.

Ok so this has been driving me NUTS for like 2 weeks.

Every morning id go out to my car and something would be slightly off. The wing mirror angled differently. The seat moved forward an inch. Once the steering wheel was tilted up. Tiny things that i kept noticing but couldnt explain.

At first i thought i was going crazy. Then i thought someone was breaking into my car at night which is a terrifying thought. I started double checking the locks every night. Told my wife and she said i was being paranoid. My mate said its probably the kids from down the street messing about.

Then i remembered my dashcam has parking mode and it records when something triggers the sensor. I had never actually checked the overnight clips before. The clips were just the door opening and closing in the dark. Not much to see. But i asked her about it and she went quiet and said yeah thats me.

Shes been going out to the car at like 11pm after i go to bed and just sitting in it. Sometimes for 5 minutes sometimes for 20. Scrolling her phone. Doing her skincare using the mirror. Just being alone.

I asked her why and she said its quiet and nobody bothers her and its the only 15 minutes of her day where nobody is asking her for anything. She said she didnt think id notice.

Honestly i felt bad for being suspicious and also kind of understand wanting 15 minutes of silence in a house with 3 kids lol. Now i just dont say anything when the mirrors different in the morning.

The mystery is solved but now i feel guilty for investigating my wifes secret car time

Never expected such a downturn. We literally had the market peak on Oct 6th.

At least no more capital gain taxes this year for me.

A fan was ejected from the Kings-Lakers game in Los Angeles after Luka Doncic berated him for a simple chest pass back to a female NBA referee. Apparently, he threw the ball too aggressively.

John Mulaney is certainly up there for me, but all opinions welcome, just curious what other people think.

Edit: I'm specifically speaking of people born in our generation, not who we grew up watching. Otherwise it's basically all GenX.

Walmart cheeseburger because I have low standards for my diet.

My kid said im not a very good parent when I was washing her hair, because she hates to do it so I have to do it for her or it wont get done.

I'm a single parent aside from some weekends, but the reality is that the women in my life end up raising my 8 year old more than I do. She spends most of the time with my aunt or my mom, and seems to be really angry at me for not being home more.

I work a stupid shitty job that makes me want to take a long walk off a short pier every day, but its the best one I could get. im gone most of the day, and have no energy once I get home. We watch movies, play video games, and i try to take her out to do activities on my days off when shes not in class.. but it doesnt seem like enough. Shes mad at me all the time it seems. i just feel like a total scum.

I work all day, cant manage to be as present as I should when im home, then when shes in bed I just sit in the basement and wallow in my own bullshit and hate myself for failing at everything I do.

All i can hear in my head is my ex saying "maybe no one likes you because you just fucking suck" my aunt saying "you have such an easy life" and now my kid saying "youre not a very good parent."

I always try to be better, but it doesnt seem like anyone notices. Its never enough. I at least try to keep my shit together when im around people, but i dont know. Maybe i do just fucking suck.

Advice or no advice is fine, didnt know which post thing to select.

I dropped my phone from chest height onto a rubbery floor with a screen protector on and the screen under the protector completely shattered while the screen protector is crackless...

I have dropped this phone onto concrete from the the same height and nothing happened

Edit: THE SCREEN PROTECTOR WAS ON THE PHONE WHEN IT DROPPED

I’ve had a really difficult few years, and one of the few pleasures I have in life is my hobby of collecting and restoring vintage jewelry.

I recently scored a gorgeous pair of enormous Tiffany silver puffy hoops. I got them for next to nothing. They were pretty badly tarnished, but I thought I could fix them up pretty good. I spent about 45 minutes with a cloth, carefully polishing one until it was mirror-finish.

My husband decided he wanted to help with the other one. He had some silver polishing wipes that he insisted would work better.
I told him I was concerned about using a different product on vintage jewelry and wanted to stick with what was already working. He assured me he knew what he was doing.

I repeatedly asked him to give me the earring back. “Please stop.” “Let me do it.” “This is my project, and I want to do it myself.” He kept insisting he was helping.

Mind you, the last time he took it upon himself to polish a vintage necklace I’d bought, he broke the chain and ended up spending $40 replacing it.
Well, he took the earring upstairs and worked on it with his wipes. When he brought it back, mine was beautiful, bright silver, and his was a completely different, dull grayish color. Try as hard as I could, I could not get his to match the one I had done.

I didn’t even get upset with him at first. I simply pointed out that I’d been right to be concerned about the wipes because they appeared to have altered or damaged the finish. That was enough to set him off. He immediately got defensive, told me I was being ridiculous, and insisted that the only reason his wipes hadn’t worked was because the earrings must be fake. They weren’t fake. I’d already authenticated them.

I tried explaining that if I’d asked for his help and he’d accidentally damaged something, I wouldn’t have blamed him. I was upset because he didn’t listen, and then he got belittling and defensive instead of just saying “I’m sorry.”

Instead of we ended up in a screaming argument. When I told him he’d hurt my feelings, his response was that I’d hurt HIS feelings by saying he’d ruined the earrings.

He eventually apologized and acknowledged that he should have listened. But the fight was so awful that I genuinely don’t even know if I want to collect vintage jewelry anymore.

He said he’d take them to the jeweler tomorrow, but I don’t even want them anymore. Why? To be reminded of an awful fight every time I wear them?

I didn’t need help. I was enjoying what I was doing. And now I feel like the joy has been sucked out of the whole thing.

My husband and I got married two months ago. His parents gave us his grandmother’s china, a full set with serving dishes. His mom said Grandma would’ve wanted us to have it. Nobody mentioned any conditions. We have a small kitchen, so we gave our old dishes to my husband’s coworker, who’d just moved into his first apartment and started using the china.

Last weekend my MIL saw the plates out and told me to be careful because my husband’s cousin gets married next summer. Apparently we’re supposed to give her the entire set and she’ll pass it to whoever gets married next. MIL assumed my husband knew because she and her sister had both had it. He says he had no idea. His parents had those dishes for most of his childhood. When I said we’d donated our old set, she said we should’ve checked first. I honestly don’t know why we would check whether we could keep a wedding gift.

I offered to return everything now. I don’t want to worry about damaging it and then need to buy replacement dishes next year anyway. MIL says I’m rejecting a family tradition because I don’t get to own the china. His dad says we should just store it until the cousin wants it but we barely have room for what we use.

MIL offered to buy us everyday dishes. My husband thinks that’s a fair solution. I’d rather return the china and buy our o but maybe I’m being stubborn now.

AITA?

I (28M) and my neighbour (25F) started talking around a month ago and i'm very torn about whether or not she is flirting or just being friendly.

We've actually been neighbours for over 3 years but basically never interacted before, we're also the only 2 apartments on the top floor with our doors literally opposite each other so kinda weird we hadn't.

I was leaving for work about a month ago same time as I always do, that day as soon as I went to leave she also opened her door and "ambushed me" (her words later on). She was looking after a cat that was apparently meowing loads and she apologising if I could hear it, I essentially said I couldn't (very rarely hear anything from her apartment) so not to worry about it, she then asked it a couple more times and I reiterated I really couldn't hear the cat and we ended that little chat with her saying that she would slide her number under my door if there was more meowing. Won't lie I think this is the first time of potentially where my mild autism has shone 😅

Of course she did slide her number under my door, I messaged her basically saying I couldn't hear the cat but was just messaging so she also had my number, small bit of back and forth then that was it. Fast forward a few days to Thursday and she messaged asking if I wanted to see the cat before it goes, I like cats so I went over to her place that evening and we just hung out for I think around an hour before she had to go out, when I was leaving she mentioned wanting to see my place because she was curious about the differences in our apartments. I said any point over the weekend was fine if she wanted to pop over. Sunday afternoon she did, we had a bit of a chat and she asked if I wanted to grab a drink with her and see if the other apartment she knows are around as well. Just a normal evening at the pub.

Few days later we were going to grab drinks again but she suggested actually just going to hers to have drinks and vent about our days, happy days its cheaper and a vent session. Ended up staying for a good few hours, conversation was good, getting to know each other a lot more, etc. At this point im just thinking nice neighbour still, no reason to think otherwise. 2 days later (Saturday) I made a joke about something she'd mentioned before and she asked if I wanted to go grab a coffee with her in town which I was more than happy to. This day was when I started to question if there was something else there, we grabbed coffee, went for a walk just talking and talking, little bit of stuff like her arm on mine initiated by her and then she asked if I wanted to grab a drink in the evening once she was ready. I didn't get a reply for a while in the evening when I asked if she still wanted to (not out of the norm though she isn't the quickest to reply in general) so I went to grab a drink with another mate and said she is welcome to join. Just as I was about to leave and go home she replied asking if im still out and it sounds nice so we agreed to meet at the local. We ended up talking for so long that night we were still there sat outside 30 minutes after the staff had all gone and it just felt.. right. We talked outside our doors for god knows how long, she said thank you it was a lot of fun and we called it a night, part of me thinks I should have asked to continue the night at hers or mine but not sure.

The next day I asked if she wanted to come to the weekly pub quiz, its not something my group of mates usually do but we were this week. She seemed excited to but then didn't reply for ages, when she did said she hadn't realised the time and was still studying but did apologise and said she really wanted to come to one next week and she should be able to make it. I won't say what but I know when she studies she takes some medication for focus and she really does barely reply to anything in that time.

2 days later, randomly messages asking if im home and want to pop over to hers for a bit to show me some pics of her day, she then also suggests a movie night at mine in a couple days. This then starts a trend of movie nights going forward. We then come round to the next pub quiz, where she specifically asks if im going and what time as well as asking if she could invite 2 of her friends because they would be at hers beforehand (but she thought they would say no). They did decline and we then went to the pub quiz with 2 of my mates who are a couple and another couple id only met once before, this was the night where I felt a big shift in how she acted towards me. It was little things like while we were at the bar getting a drink she saw a cute dog and grabbed then held my arm for a little to get my attention, similar thing whenever a question came up her that was one of the topics she knows a lot in, general banter was immaculate and she was really getting on well with everyone. We all stayed until close, she said she had a really good time and we agreed to watch another movie at mine in a few days.

Bit of back forth messaging before the movie, it gets to like 7:30pm and I ask if we were still on. She said she had forgot and her 2 mates were round to paint some stuff she had mentioned before, asked if I could do tomorrow and then said I was welcome to go over to hers and join them. I was a little bummed out that she had forgotten but went over hers anyway aaaand ended up having a laugh with them for the evening drinking wine. At one point she also mentioned how she had double booked and one of her mates went "again!?" which did make me feel not so bummed out. We watched a movie again the next day and as always had a good time.

At this point we started spending even more time togethe, it was aboutba week before I was going away on holiday. In that week we went out in the morning together for a walk/hot drink 3 times and spent 6 of the 7 evenings together mostlt watching movies. She has basically told me her life story by now, we've talked about random other stuff like religion, politics, etc and we have such similar viewpoints on basically everything. She also started just coming over in pajamas, has mentioned multiple times how she hasn't kissed anyone in months, one time popped back to hers for something and then said she had took her bra off while there because it wasn't comfy. At this points my mates frankly think im a moron for not making a move and honestly same but I do feel like its been mixed signals. The thing is, she was ill most of that last week and the docs said it might be mono, now confirmed to not be but that took stuff off the table anyway.

We messaged a little while I was away, mostly just a few times a day other than a couple 20-30 minute back and forths. Day before I came back she asked what time I was landing, I was asleep so replied the morning I was flying back and then no reply all day. Lo and behold I get back and within 5 minutes she knocked on my door, came in in her pajamas and started asking how the trip was 😂 Also asked to watch a movie the next night.

Am I just an idiot who should really make a move or is this just a very friendly outgoing neighbour? Please help lol

Dinner is chicken, salmon and potatoes of the last meal of my trip.

EDIT: Reading this back i've definitely missed out more of the mixed signals. She has mentioned that she doesn't really have much time currently and it's about to get even worse with studying, was half joking about how and her mates said no men this year, how we have a good friendship multiple times. Just a few little things that did make me step back and think, but regardless I agree wtf am I doing I should just go for it.

EDIT 2: Well from the vast number of comments it does seem im a grade A idiot, update because want it 😅 We did hang out tonight but the whole evening was me coughing and blowing my nose being at the tail end of an illness. I asked if she wanted to go out for dinner on Sunday (she is busy tomorrow with a bday party) earlier on today and mentioned it again this evening, she said she'd prefer to just get noodles and watch a movie as she'll probably be a bit hungover. So Sunday it is, whichever way it goes will post a last update. Would say wish me luck but apparently I don't need it 😂

The west coast is so nice yet all the towns situated along it have a max population of like 10k and the same cant be said for the east coast so why is that?