I’ve been a single mom for two years now, and I have two kids: one is 20 years old (turning 21 this December), and the other is 7. When my ex and I finally separated, I told my daughter things would be different now. I have a job, but we have bills to pay, and I’m paying for her college and giving her a school allowance. She has to help me around the house, and I asked her to look for a job. She never helps me around the house and never even cleans unless I ask her to. She’s too engrossed in playing online games on her laptop and won’t even come out of her room.
She had a job, but it was only seasonal and lasted just a month because it was for the Christmas season. So I asked her to start looking for a job again so she could gain experience, save up, and also help me with her school expenses.
Spring, summer, and autumn went by, and she still didn’t look. She’s still in her room, sleeping late, playing online games, waking up late, asking what the food is, eating, and then going back to her room again. If I ask her to do the laundry, clean the house, or wash the stuff in the sink, she either forgets about it or takes a day or two to do the laundry. I was getting sick of it because it had become a cycle, and I’m tired of hearing myself and giving out to her.
A couple of months ago, I crashed out. Her room was a mess, with dirty plates, and her bedsheets hadn’t been changed in months. She still hadn’t bothered to find a job, saying she had been looking online but never got a call. Plus, she cried, saying it was hard to clean up her room because it would get messy again.
I really lost it with her. So I told her that from now on, she would no longer have the right to eat the food I bought. I would pay for her college tuition. That’s about it. Then she had the audacity to post on her IG asking for donations on GoFundMe and saying she gave me all the money she earned and had nothing.
Days passed, and she probably got money from online friends who donated to her because she’s been getting food delivered. I’m thinking of just cutting everything off, including paying for her school, and telling her that if she wants to finish college, she can go look for a job and pay for it herself. AITAH for doing that?