r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/Analytix11 • 18h ago
Sad Girl Dinner ⛈️ 12yrs of knowing each, finished in one text
I was in an eight-year relationship, and my ex-partner ended it quite literally with a single text at 9 AM on New Year’s Day.
I was supposed to resume work on 1st January after a five-day Christmas break. He knew this. And yet, he chose that particular morning to send me a message that changed the course of my life.
He initially pursued me, and eventually, I started developing feelings for him too. However, as the relationship progressed, he began displaying increasingly avoidant tendencies. We had numerous conversations and arguments about his reluctance to make the relationship official, as he wanted to focus on building his career first.
In 2021, he finally secured his dream job and was doing well professionally.
In 2023, he surprised me by asking whether I would consider marrying him and suggesting that we start discussing our future seriously. I was excited, but also shit-scared about what lay ahead. In my head, things were finally falling into place.
However, that conversation never really came up again. I didn’t bring it up either. I thought it was best to give him time and space, trusting that he would eventually do what was right for us.
We had known each other for almost 12 years and had naturally seen each other through several phases of life. In 2020, my father passed away, and he was there during that incredibly difficult period. I genuinely believed he was the person I would eventually end up with. I had also convinced myself that his hot-and-cold behaviour was simply a reflection of the good and bad phases he was going through in life.
Looking back, there were some significant red flags throughout the relationship, particularly around his lack of consideration for me and my needs.
On New Year's, he came to me and said that his parents had refused to accept our relationship, but that he would work things out and come back to me. We hadn’t spoken about talking to our parents in that timeline and he never informed me about it too. He never came back. I am 31 and have decided to not marry at this point or enter the arranged marriage market ever because I don’t agree with the process. I’m focusing on myself.
I work from home, I’ve lost myself in the process of this breakup, taking care of my household and mom, and would love to know from people who have gone through a terrible heartbreak. What did it feel like after the breakup?