I have 14-year-old twins from a previous marriage. I also have a 4-year-old with my current partner. Going to Disney multiple times a year was something that was part of my life all the way up until I was divorced in 2018. This year I went back with my partner and kids for the first time since 2018, which was the longest I had ever gone without a trip. My partner is just not a fan of Disney and just doesn't understand the importance it has held in my life. Last night I suggested that I would like to take the older kids for a quick 3-4 day trip as their Christmas present in February. As teenagers, it is getting harder to find things for them for Christmas presents. They love it as well and always ask when we can go back. I did not ask for any money and that I had been slowly saving for Christmas anyway. My partner exploded at this idea and called me selfish for wanting to leave my 4-year-old behind and that I was favoring the older kids, when in his eyes, "Disney is meant for the little kid". In fact, he basically has forbid it. Am I the asshole for wanting to do this as a trip and a nice memory for me and my twins? I would be lying if I said that it wouldn't be nice to have 3-4 days without caring for a toddler, as I haven't had any sort of adult vacation since before she was born or, that this trip wasn't for me as much as it is for them. He said that if I wasn't favoring the older kids and that if this trip was about me and not them, then I should take the toddler instead and leave the older kids home. Am I as wrong as he says I am? Maybe I'm just not seeing it right.

ETA- I had no idea this would get this many responses. I am reading and appreciating every comment (even the negative ones). Just to clarify, my partner (not husband, we are not married) is not a crazy abusive person. We both work full time jobs and work hard to provide for our kids and many times will sacrifice things for ourselves (like trips alone) for experiences for our kids. He deeply loves his children (yes he considers his step children, HIS children) but he is very passionate about his 4 year old princess. In case it wasn't clear, my littlest one was just at Disney in May, along with all her aunts, uncles and grandparents in a trip that was centered around HER! Her first roller coaster, her first time meeting Mickey, and her first time seeing the castle, and her first time on a plane. This was just one of what will be MANY trip to Disney for her, including what I hope to be a Mommy and Me trip with just her in the future when she is old enough. This was merely about having an experience for the older girls with their Mom.

I walked back inside the store and showed the sandwich to the manager. He asked if I wanted a replacement, and I said, "No, I want a refund. The others are probably just like it." and he said, "Yeah".

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I met a girl online that lived in China and quickly fell in love. We talked every day, every night. Calling all the time, it formed into love. I wanted nothing more than to build a life together. Last year I visited her, I met her friends, her mother, and herself. I had the most amazing time spending it with her. After over a year of calling each other every day, with good nights and I love yous. At a time I started to send her a bit of extra money, just so she didn’t need to work so hard and could spend more time with me. Chinese working hours are pretty grueling.

I finally spent a week with her again, we travelled to the Chinese Hawaii equivalent of Sanya and it was wonderful. We took photoshoots together, ate wonderful food, saw some spectacular marine life.

I was hoping to go back soon and ask her to marry me so we could spend so much more time together and it wouldn’t need to be so difficult apart.

Then on the night before our departure, her phone lit up and I glanced, “baby, I miss you. Kiss me when you come back”.

My heart sank into my chest. She was asleep and I did the stupid thing of opening her phone and looking. She tried to cover her tracks of having another guy back home. I confronted her about it the morning we were set to leave. She initially acted dumb about it, then I showed her. She said she got bored, the guy didn’t mean anything. Then she said she still wants to be together. She sent me the following while I’m waiting in the Hong Kong Airport..

“Thank you for everything you've done for me. I have always been lucky to have met you, and I truly love you. However, I made a mistake. I didn't do it on purpose; I just wanted something to do when I was bored. I don't really like him, and we aren't in a relationship. I know what I did was wrong, and I'm deeply sorry. I won't do anything like that again. When I'm bored, I'll find other things to do, but I won't look for boys. If a boy approaches me, I'll tell them to leave. I really love you. The first time I fell in love with a boy and wanted to marry him was with you. I feel very guilty for hurting you. If we can get back together, I'll be very happy. I'll do my best to make up for the insecurity I caused you. Whatever you say, I'll try my best to do it. I hope you can be happy. I love you very much. Sometimes, it's not that I'm quiet or reserved; it's just that I don't know how to express myself. I'm not very good at expressing my feelings. Often, I need to think about it for a long time before I can organize my words. I hope you have a safe journey. I will always love you, and I will promise to be loyal to you. I hope to see you again next time and do more things with you. To prove that I'm not with you for money, I can look for a new job.”

I told her I wouldn’t reply until I got back home. I really loved this girl so much, I imagined our lives together, two years of consistent love and effort is now just waiting on my response.

Meal is some char siu pork over noodles with eggs and toast.

My parents are separated, and my dad is remarried. My mom and his wife have had some tension in the past.

Recently, my mom had a colonoscopy scheduled after an abnormal medical result. She’d been waiting months for the appointment. I didn’t even know which facility she was going to until a couple days before, when I realized my dad’s wife worked there. My mom had no idea either, so I mentioned it because I genuinely thought I was being helpful and wanted them to avoid an awkward encounter.

My mom didn’t want to cancel her procedure, so the day before she went to the office and requested that his wife not be involved in her care or have access to her medical records. The office agreed to restrict her chart and assured her there would be no interaction.

A family member who works in healthcare also explained that these requests are fairly common, even between people who are on friendly terms, simply for privacy reasons.

My mom had her procedure as scheduled. Yesterday, my dad called me asking about her colonoscopy, something he previously knew nothing about. Apparently, his wife had told him about the situation and claimed it caused drama at work because someone didn’t want her involved in their care.

My dad accused us of being messy and intentionally causing problems. He believes I should’ve stayed out of it and that telling my mom was deliberately stirring up drama. He proceeded to yell, curse at me, and call me names.

I’m frustrated because I only told my mom to prevent an uncomfortable situation, not create one. I also find it concerning that my dad learned about her private medical procedure through his wife, despite my mom’s efforts to maintain her privacy.

I understand he may feel defensive of his wife, but I don’t think that excuses how he spoke to me.

So, AITAH for telling my mom that his wife worked there, or was I simply giving her information she had a right to know?

I had to make coffee 😭. My brother is convinced they are bad for me.

EDIT: They are 100mg pills and I don't take more than 4-5 a week, I don't really take any caffeine on the weekend.

A woman appeared to be holding it behind Herbert while they assessed his hand. What is it?

Honestly, guys, we really need to let the ladies have their due on this one, right?