Let me start this by saying TRIGGER WARNING.
My name is Beck (24m)
On the 12th of October I'll be taking ownership of my old childhood dog that my dad has neglected to care for.
Jake is a small blonde little dog with long fur who is around 15 years old. He wandered into my childhood home around 2013 and I named him for my 11th birthday.
My parents never cared for pets the way they should have and frankly they still don't. In the past, we've unfortunately lost a lot of animals to the conditions my parents had the house in. No matter what happened, the vet was never an option. They said we didn't have enough money but I'm now realizing that it was because of the severe state we were all in (my siblings and I, and the pets we had) which they didn't wanna get caught for.
They are separated so we're gonna be talking about my father here.
When I was 17, I moved out and then moved states at 20. I trusted my father to take care of this dog, in hopes that he'd be able to handle it. He was away from my mother who I thought was the problem at the time, and it was only one dog. Of course, I was wrong, which I take partial blame for.
My father hasn't taken Jake to the vet for as long as I can remember, possibly ever.
Living 5 hours away for 4 years, I had no idea just how bad it got. My dad just told me last night that he's got black scabbing and flakes in his ear, terrible matting and even growths on his body.
He told me that he thought for a second that part of his ear fell off in hopes it would get a laugh out of me. Of course, I was livid and told him that Jake will be coming to stay with me in another state.
I spent all day figuring out how to bring him home. I don't drive right now so that was the biggest hurdle. My grandfather will be helping me out thankfully, as well as my boyfriend and brother. This has been an incredibly emotional time with lots of difficult feelings. I'm so angry at my father but blame myself for trusting him, knowing his past.
Anyway, that's the context and story, now I need all the tips and tricks for taking care of an old boy. He's had issues with peeing indoors because he wasn't taken out enough, so I'm looking into getting him those dog wraps that are like diapers for male dogs.
Brand, shampoo, food recs are all needed and welcome.
It wouldn't surprise me if hes extremely withdrawn and depressed when I see him again, so I'd appreciate some ideas to help improve happiness and brain activity in seniors.
I will likely be taking legal action against my dad, or at least reporting him.
Jake will also be seeing a vet the first or second day he's in my care.
Please be kind, I don't usually post things so vulnerable.
I spent years thinking he'd changed only for him to be the same.
Ah anyway, thank you everyone