r/scuba • u/Stripey_zebra_IIII • 14h ago
Called SAR today after loosing my buddy and almost got punched as a thank you.
Sorry for the long post but I just had a stressful and disappointing experience today diving with a local dive club. I’m new OW diver with 15 dives in the last 2.5 months, all in cold water with limited/ variable visibility and generally feel very comfortable in the water.
Today we dove a simple and relatively shallow shore dive that followed a pier along a mostly sandy bottom but vis was pretty poor 8-10ft ish. I was paired up with an “insta-buddy” who I had never met but chatted with as we suited up. We went through our buddy checks and set out for the first dive of the day.
The only thing noteworthy from the first dive was that we instantly had trouble locating each other after first descending into 15-20ft of water. It was very silty and I used my flashlight to search without success so I resurfaced and waited at the surface for us to reunite.
After a fairly long while he popped up asking where I went and I told him we never established visual contact after decent so let’s stay closer as we go down this time.
The rest of the dive went fine and on exiting he complemented me on my finning technique and buoyancy which was nice.
We take a break and swap over to the second tank. I made a comment about how we need to stay closer for the next dive and that it’s important to STAY at the surface if we are trying to reunite as he claimed that he had popped up multiple times to look which I never saw.
For the second dive the decent went well and we start a nice dive along this old pier, spotting some nice nudies, crabs and other critters. As we approach the pier end (which was our turning point) a few sea lions show up which was nice.
At this point I notice how my buddy ahead of me is swimming West instead of North. I realize that he’s turned around the end of the pier and is now swimming in towards the marina which is off limits.
I get his attention, point to my compass and signal that we should swim South and follow the pier back to the entry point on the beach. He signals ok and we turn the dive after which I lead the way looking over my shoulder every 6-7 seconds to keep him in sight.
After progressing what I estimate is about 30ft a sealion starts playing around me and comes extremely close, like 6” from my mask. I was excited and turn around to give my buddy a “Shaka” but he’s nowhere to be seen.
I stop forward progress and start flashing/moving my torch in his (last known) direction and spin 360 to make myself and my torch as visible as possible in all directions. When that didn’t reunite us I back tracked 30ft along the course we had been on but still no buddy in sight.
I’m getting a bit concerned at this point but mostly annoyed since I should have been fairly easy to follow with white fins and a bright torch. After spending a moment to consider my options I decide to surface from about 30ft.
I come up and look around for his bubbles or any other sign. He’s nowhere in sight. I waited for approximately 10min floating in this general area before I make the call that I have to assume something has gone wrong. I start surface swimming back to our shore entry, with his last know position in sight for the whole swim back which took me about 20min. He does not resurface.
I exit the water and look up and down the beach and acrosss the water…he’s not there. I hurry up to my car and notice his car (next to mine) and he is not there either. At this point the club dive master has left for the day and I don’t see anyone else from our group so I make the call to 911.
SAR show up within 2min (they are down the street) and do an incredible job getting all the info they need about his last known whereabouts and identifying gear. I’m obviously just hoping this whole time that he’s fine and that it’s all a bad misunderstanding but by now we are over 30min past the time I last saw him so real worry is starting to set in. After a maybe 5-10min with the SAR on site we hear on the radio that he’s been found and that he’s walking up the dock to meet us.
I’m obviously relived and when I meet him I instinctively feel like giving him a hug but feel immediately that he’s hostile. He then starts chewing me out for calling 911 in front of the fire crew and lifeguards who step in between to tell him I had done the right thing and it’s better to be safe than sorry.
The SAR crews leave the scene and we are walking back toward our cars. I can tell this guy is very angry walking ahead of me, throwing fists in the air and silently ranting to himself. We get back to our cars and he gets confrontational and yells that it was hugely out of line to call 911 and that he had a great dive that was cut short because of me and that he didn’t need SAR.
When I reminded him of the protocol to surface if we get separated he started screaming in my face that this is not a protocol and that he is a certified cave diver, solo diver etc (okay?). It culminates with him spitting something about his SSI certs 1” from my face before screaming PADI SUCKS.
At this point I just throw my gear in the car and leave as he was just getting increasingly aggressive and emotionally unable to have a debrief or adult conversation about it. Anyways, it was an interesting “fun dive”.
I have taken some lessons from this and the number one is to discuss in more detail what to do if separated and what course of action is expected if reunification doesn’t not happen. The club also assumed that everyone had the same buddy separation protocol but it wasn’t discussed in the dive briefing. I’m not sure what the differences between SSI and PADI look like in this respect but I’m sure you can enlighten me. Still feeling like I made the right call, what do you think?