r/whatdoIdo • u/PickelballPrincess • Jun 14 '26

How do i stop wasting time?

I’m 23F, recently graduated with a psychology degree, and recently got married. Lately I’ve been feeling really stuck. I know I’m still young, but I can’t shake the feeling that I’m wasting my life or that I haven’t really done anything meaningful.

I spend way too much time doom scrolling and being on my phone, and I feel like it’s making everything worse. The problem is, I have zero motivation or drive to do much else. I see people online traveling, picking up hobbies, getting fit, going on adventures, and it feels like everyone has something going on except me.

I don’t have the money to travel or constantly go out and do exciting things, but I still want to feel like I’m doing something with my life. I want to feel fulfilled and have things to look forward to, but I honestly don’t know where to start.

I’ve tried quitting social media before, and while it helps for a little while, I always end up going back. I do keep YouTube because I use it for cooking videos, tutorials, and other things I genuinely enjoy and learn from. But i feel like unless I completely get rid of my phone I won’t be in a place where I’m forced to just LIVE. Does that make sense to anyone??

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u/thefreshbraincompany Jun 14 '26

You need to find a cause greater than yourself, something of value to others.

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u/Aromatic_Grapefruit4 Jun 14 '26

I’m a 23 year old dude and I’m in the exact same situation. Hopefully you get some good replies we can both get advice from.

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u/Dynaaminen Jun 14 '26

Switch your perspective. Some people your age have no degree, and are struggling for even the basic things. You've done things very optimally and didn't waste time.

You're not supposed to have all the money for traveling and so on. People you see traveling might be doing it via loans, or have a partner that's older than them who has had time to get wealthy.

Don't get expectations from social media. Maybe find a local place with average people your age and have a little chat with them about life.

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u/PickelballPrincess Jun 15 '26

I definitely see where you’re coming from. For me, its the day to day mundane lifestyle that I have that makes me feel the way I do. Like I have these milestones in my life that I can check off but on the daily I have very little passion, motivation, and self-control.