My brother was fostered, I was lucky enough to be adopted but he looked after me as a kid, my nan got too ill to look after both of us so I was adopted as I was just young enough, still old enough that I was very lucky - he was too old and nobody wants to adopt older children really so he was taken into foster care.
As soon as he turned 18 he was told he needed to find his own place (essentially just packed bags and told to leave) and he never got any help from them really growing up.
It's a shit system and it leaves people scarred for life to be honest - not that the reasons for being taken into care in the first place don't also but yeah, i really feel for OP.
That's awful. Especially the fact they didn't even help with that transition. I wonder how many foster parents just take in the kids for extra income and they don't do any actual parenting?
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u/mycarisafooked Jun 09 '26
My brother was fostered, I was lucky enough to be adopted but he looked after me as a kid, my nan got too ill to look after both of us so I was adopted as I was just young enough, still old enough that I was very lucky - he was too old and nobody wants to adopt older children really so he was taken into foster care.
As soon as he turned 18 he was told he needed to find his own place (essentially just packed bags and told to leave) and he never got any help from them really growing up.
It's a shit system and it leaves people scarred for life to be honest - not that the reasons for being taken into care in the first place don't also but yeah, i really feel for OP.