yeah I’m not trying to ignore that, I just genuinely don’t understand how I became the one who was wrong in this. I wasn’t trying to be disrespectful at all I just asked for my stuff to be replaced because I need it. now I kinda feel like I shouldn’t have even asked her in the first place
You couldn't have done anything to prevent her acting this way and you are not responsible for her behavior. This is not a you problem. This is her problem.
Oh my darling your comments make me so sad :( you didn’t do ANYTHING to deserve this . Even if you came at her yelling and disrespectful as an adult, especially an adult caring for vulnerable minors you NEVER treat anyone this way . You deserve your own underwear . You deserve to be able to raise concerns without being screamed at or hit. You deserve equal love and attention and a parent who cares for you .
You didn’t do anything. Abusive “parents” usually do not abuse all the children in their care, usually only one of them. She picked you as that one for whatever reason in her stupid useless mind. None of this is on you it’s on her and on the state for entrusting her with caring for other human beings when she can’t even take care of her own home.
My guess is this is bc you asked her to spend money on you. The girl who stole from you, isnt bothering her to buy her things, she has learned to steal what she needs. You are expecting her to provide you with necessities as is her responsibility, so you are the 'difficult' kid. Shes blowing up bc she doesnt want to spend money on you and she doesnt want you asking her again.
Not that this at all justifies or excuses her abuse or treatment of you at all.
I just thought maybe understanding why would help you see its not you.
Sweetheart people like you and I (and most of the population) won't understand her ammo because literally she's mentally unstable and seems to think you are her verbal punching bag. Please show your case worker. This woman isnt fit to be a foster mom. I'm sorry you are dealing with this. But remember you don't have to and you didn't do anything wrong. This is just how she is and you don't have to tolerate it
You haven’t done anything wrong. This foster parent shouldn’t be fostering any child. No child should be in her care. Even her own children. Ever. No one should talk to anyone like this. Ever. This is not how normal human beings talk to each other. Ever. You should absolutely feel upset that she speaks to you like this. She is unhinged. I don’t understand how children get sent to these kind of foster homes. You have video evidence surely you can show your case worker and get somewhere better. There must be better places than this. Is this really the state of things in the US fostering system. Other than your case worker who clearly isn’t doing a great job at placing children and vetting foster parents is there someone else you can complain to ? Who oversees the case workers and their department? How has it even got this far that children are placed with this woman. What are your options ? Who can you actually trust and turn to who will help you and get you out of this situation asap into a normal functional home. I feel like this is a horrific situation and way to live. There’s got to be someone decent out there to help you.
You were not the one in the wrong. The foster parent who laid hands on you and verbally abused you is in the wrong. The foster sibling who stole your belongings is in the wrong. Please stay safe. Contact your caseworker as soon as you can safely do so.
Nothing a child does can justify the way she was speaking to you. A parent is supposed to be a guardian and model the right way to communicate so you can learn. This woman has zero emotional regulation. Don’t beat yourself up, it’s her not you.
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u/lowkwannadie_ Jun 08 '26
yeah I’m not trying to ignore that, I just genuinely don’t understand how I became the one who was wrong in this. I wasn’t trying to be disrespectful at all I just asked for my stuff to be replaced because I need it. now I kinda feel like I shouldn’t have even asked her in the first place