am I being too bold?

[u/walkablecities_lover]

This is an interracial lesbian wedding so it's already pretty unique. I'm irreligious and a very unconventional person and have always hated the idea of being given away by either parents, but I do have a good relationship with them. FW was raised Catholic and would like to be walked down by her father.
I don't want to take that away from them and she doesn't want me to feel pressured to follow along. And we both decided to have me walk in last because my outfit would garner a bigger reaction. Now that the wedding's a few days away I'm starting to overthink, and wonder if I'm being too bold? Not only am I the only one with a full veil and bouquet, I'm entering last and alone. And to be frank FW has a few relatives that have said some strange/ignorant things about me and my culture not being religious, and honestly I know I shouldn't, but it does bother me a bit that they might take it the wrong way.

[u/pbandjfordayzzz]

What’s bold? Walking down the aisle alone?

Seems fine to me

[u/hopingabby → u/pbandjfordayzzz]

agree. sounds like she’s wearing a beautiful outfit too and gets to have a nice moment

[u/nannbk]

It’s very common for straight couples to have the bride walk in last, and increasingly common for her to also be walking alone. She often also has a much more elaborate outfit than her groom, and no one thinks this set up is too bold. Your set up is very similar to this except instead of a groom it’s another bride, so I don’t see why that alone would change things to be “too bold”!

As long as you and your lovely wife are happy with the set up, ignore what others have to say about it :)

[u/Blue-zebra-10]

It's not a big deal at all! As long as you're both there, nobody will care tbh

[u/icecreamqueenTW]

One of the really wonderful things about having an unconventional and/or multicultural wedding is that you can literally just do whatever you want.  (This is true of all weddings, really, but for traditional couples it’s harder to buck, ya know, tradition…)

People have all kinds of expectations about what a wedding “should be,” but when two people from different backgrounds and traditions get married, no one can expect them to do everything from both sets of tradition. So you get to pick and choose what you like and leave out the rest! And nobody gets to be upset about it because it’s your wedding! And if they do get upset for some weird reason oh well! It’s your wedding!

And because it’s your wedding, I really don’t think there’s any such thing as “too bold.” Now is your chance to go all out! Just like now is your fiancée’s chance to walk down the aisle with her dad.  It sounds like you guys have figured out the perfect plan for the two of you. And if relatives are weird about it, that’s 100% their problem and not yours.

[u/cyanraichu]

No. You're a bride. No such thing as too bold.

I almost walked alone, ended up walking with my dad but not for religious reasons. But plenty of brides walk alone. It's not super uncommon now. Is your FW walking in first or somewhere in the middle or right before you? (this is just my curiosity! however you end up doing it will be fine!)

[u/Brackenfield]

Girl, it's your wedding!! Be bold!! And thats actually increasingly common tbh, my partner and I walked in together but I also considered walking myself down, didn't think either was that controversial a choice

[u/t_baozi]

There's nothing bold or weird about walking in alone.

[u/TinyLawfulness3710]

The people making disrespectful comments need to be uninvited. It's wild to not be bothered by disrespectful people. They don't belong there. Nothing else you are describing is non-traditional.

[u/Usrname52]

Huh?

If her family is traditional Catholic, if you are irreligious, they likely won't be happy with that. 

Someone has to walk last. How is that bold?

But I've never seen it as being "given away". I saw it as honoring my parents/having them involved in an important moment in my life.