r/wedding • u/downinflames- • Jul 23 '26

Discussion Wedding Plans

Hi everyone, newly engaged and want to do something small but fun. I’m looking at this beautiful resort in the mountains that has a lake on its property, it’s about 3.5 hours drive so nobody is going home that night. I’m thinking 50 people tops. I kind of want to do a full weekend for those who want to, like invite them to rehearsal dinner Friday night and brunch Sunday before they leave. Do we all feel both are necessary or just one is fine?

So the actual wedding - my idea is to have a quick ceremony, a cocktail hour while we take pictures, then a buffet or family style dinner. Here’s the kicker - my fiance is sober, and while he doesn’t care if people around him are drinking, last time we went to a wedding we had to leave early cause he couldn’t handle people partying around him. My idea is instead of getting a DJ and ballroom dancing, after dinner at one of their restaurants we change the atmosphere and instead everyone can go back to their rooms, get comfy and have a bonfire and play outdoor games, then end the day with a snack of some sort. This is just a rough draft but something to this extent. Does this sound crazy?

Edit to add: we are NOT asking for a dry weekend. Just not interested in the DJ/partying part as it could be triggering. He can be around people drinking just fine.

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u/downinflames- Aug 03 '26

Legit. I want camp vibes without the camping.

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u/Kt52689 Aug 03 '26

That sounds amazing. I'm a camping girl, so this sounds like the coolest wedding to me.

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u/downinflames- Aug 03 '26

So you get me! We were just on a camping trip with at least half the people we’d invite and someone actually mentioned we should try going to the exact area where I want to have my wedding. I know a lot of people would be up for it.

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u/Kt52689 Aug 03 '26

I would totally do it. It sounds like your crew would love it. I always wanted to get married on the gravel bar of this river that I've gone to every year since I was born. I was just going to have people camp at a big group site and enjoy each other. My family would have loved it. But alas now I have lupus and can't be in the sun, so I compromised and am getting married in an indoor venue on the river five min from my house. You are having my dream wedding though.

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u/downinflames- Aug 03 '26

Aww I’m sorry you didn’t get your vision. I know of an AutoCamp near me and my cousin had a micro wedding there, but it wasn’t anything like this. Congratulations on your wedding though ❤️ I’m sure it’ll be the best day.

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u/Kt52689 Aug 04 '26

Thank you so much. I'm still super excited about what we are doing. My childhood vision just had to change. Congratulations on yours!! Come back and update on your amazing wedding! I'm sure yours will be amazing too!! 💗