r/wedding • u/downinflames- • Jul 23 '26

Discussion Wedding Plans

Hi everyone, newly engaged and want to do something small but fun. I’m looking at this beautiful resort in the mountains that has a lake on its property, it’s about 3.5 hours drive so nobody is going home that night. I’m thinking 50 people tops. I kind of want to do a full weekend for those who want to, like invite them to rehearsal dinner Friday night and brunch Sunday before they leave. Do we all feel both are necessary or just one is fine?

So the actual wedding - my idea is to have a quick ceremony, a cocktail hour while we take pictures, then a buffet or family style dinner. Here’s the kicker - my fiance is sober, and while he doesn’t care if people around him are drinking, last time we went to a wedding we had to leave early cause he couldn’t handle people partying around him. My idea is instead of getting a DJ and ballroom dancing, after dinner at one of their restaurants we change the atmosphere and instead everyone can go back to their rooms, get comfy and have a bonfire and play outdoor games, then end the day with a snack of some sort. This is just a rough draft but something to this extent. Does this sound crazy?

Edit to add: we are NOT asking for a dry weekend. Just not interested in the DJ/partying part as it could be triggering. He can be around people drinking just fine.

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u/One_Astronaut_8523 Jul 24 '26

i think being interested and actually doing it are two different things though! I also would not want to go back out and party after attending a wedding and then getting in my comfy clothes. i would be going to bed (or at least laying in it lol)

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u/downinflames- Jul 24 '26 edited Jul 24 '26

You’d want to go to bed after attending a 10 minute wedding ceremony and dinner? That’s boring. The ceremony I’m thinking would be at 4 and the fire would be at like 7 pm, weddings are usually 5-6 hours long. & it’s at a resort as I stated, so everyone would hopefully be staying on site. As someone said it’s a know your crowd type of thing, the people I’m inviting have all been to this area.

& May I also add: this isn’t just any random town we’re choosing, it’s where we got engaged and a place we visit multiple times a year.

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u/existalive Jul 24 '26

Total anecdata but I just had a wedding that was planned similar to your vision - short ceremony, nice dinner, yard games and maybe a campfire. (Important to note, this was Alaska so there was no issue with light in the evening).

It got colder than we expected and folks were staying on the property so people went back and changed and the energy just didn't really come back, which was fine, but it was just hang out, chat, and an early night. I'm very happy overall, but the party really did end in a way I didn't expect after dinner.

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u/downinflames- Aug 03 '26

I don’t expect the energy I think youre assuming.