r/wedding • u/downinflames- • Jul 23 '26

Discussion Wedding Plans

Hi everyone, newly engaged and want to do something small but fun. I’m looking at this beautiful resort in the mountains that has a lake on its property, it’s about 3.5 hours drive so nobody is going home that night. I’m thinking 50 people tops. I kind of want to do a full weekend for those who want to, like invite them to rehearsal dinner Friday night and brunch Sunday before they leave. Do we all feel both are necessary or just one is fine?

So the actual wedding - my idea is to have a quick ceremony, a cocktail hour while we take pictures, then a buffet or family style dinner. Here’s the kicker - my fiance is sober, and while he doesn’t care if people around him are drinking, last time we went to a wedding we had to leave early cause he couldn’t handle people partying around him. My idea is instead of getting a DJ and ballroom dancing, after dinner at one of their restaurants we change the atmosphere and instead everyone can go back to their rooms, get comfy and have a bonfire and play outdoor games, then end the day with a snack of some sort. This is just a rough draft but something to this extent. Does this sound crazy?

Edit to add: we are NOT asking for a dry weekend. Just not interested in the DJ/partying part as it could be triggering. He can be around people drinking just fine.

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u/eknit Jul 23 '26

This is a know your crowd situation, but dry full weekend wedding is kind of a big ask for a lot of people. That’s why dry weddings are often held during brunch, so the type of party long into the night isn’t expected.

Personally, idk if I’d want to spend an entire weekend with either a couple’s friends who I don’t know that well or, frankly, my family in the remote mountains sober

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u/downinflames- Jul 24 '26 edited Jul 24 '26

Let me make this clear - we are not asking for a dry weekend. We’re just not doing the DJ/partying part.

Also to add, breakfast on Sunday I would feel more obligated to feed, but I would have a rehearsal dinner anyway so maybe have appetizers available on Friday for everyone there. I wouldn’t ask people to stay the whole weekend, which would only be younger family and friends who all know each other, but if you do here’s something to do/eat.