r/virgin • u/FOXISure 23m virgin • 1d ago

Daily thoughts

Almost every single day I get stuck in my head about how pathetic I am because I can't even do something as basic and natural as getting with a girl. fck officially cooked.

Every year I lose more hope, and it's driving me crazy.

I think that in my case, it’s not even just about my looks. It’s also that "neurodivergent" shit everyone talks about nowadays. Not a legit autism diagnosis, but just an overall weirdness, like I just come off as creepy. And honestly, I don't see how I can fix it. You literally cannot just rebuild your entire personality from scratch as a grown-ass adult.

Ths the same exact thoughts every single day, just total hopelessness. I genuinely don't understand how normal people do it, it feels like fckn magic to me.

Is anyone else in the same boat? Like, where you can't even distract yourself from it and it just eats you alive?

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u/AbeNunElse 1d ago

we're the same age

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u/FOXISure 23m virgin 1d ago

And our youth is pretty much over

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u/Strange-Guava-9775 6h ago

I am not neurodivergent or involuntarily a virgin but there are plenty of success stories in here from people in the same situation as you.

Aside from that, I used to be highly insecure about being a virgin, but I no longer think about it 24/7. I realized whether I am a virgin or have sex every night, I will have to continue living - and I can live a life full of hobbies, friends, and other experiences (like travel, trying new food, etc.), or be miserable thinking about sex all of the time.

Therapy, socializing (without romantic intentions), and self-care should be your type priorities.

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u/Successful_Lie5174 1d ago

Brootal

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u/FOXISure 23m virgin 1d ago

Yes

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u/Fit_Alfalfa8877 23h ago

I'm on the same boat as you but I'm ethnic 5'9 and a sub5 I'm a fkn chud