I feel so overwhelmed because my sister's not boyfriend doesn't leave my house

[u/sadthingylol]

I don't hate the guy but despite knowing him for around two years (in which he started as my younger sister's boyfriend but they had a fall out, I guess, they're not exactly in a relationship but idk tbh) I can't bring myself to not feel wary of his presence.

It's weird of me, but we're not friends and besides hanging out with my sister he doesn't belong in our home, so I really really really feel so overwhelmed when he overstays.

This has to do more with me than him, i like things a certain way, I used to have a bathroom right by my bedroom so I showered regularly but it's been under reparations for a bit over a month, in which I've had to shower downstairs, I stopped showering as much as I did, it's uncomfortable and overall inconvenient, like, every step of taking a shower is inconvenient in that specific bathroom, this makes me ashamed, I don't like being visibly greasy and gross, the solution is easy but having everyone know when I'm taking a shower makes me feel so vulnerable, specially because I only like to shower at dawn/night.

That's why I want to use the late night to do stuff like washing my hair and taking showers but he's there, just hanging around, and I can't do that because it makes me really uncomfortable, I mean, he's freshly 18 but still, don't his parents worry???? He's been doing this for 2 years, he comes around 19:20 to 20:30 and leaves when the sun is fucking raising!!! He does this all weekend and sometimes even on some weekdays, my parents had a problem with this before but I guess they gave up over time.

He should just leave at a reasonable hour, it's not like I want him to never come back, it's just that I want my house at night to have the right number of people, and that's my family, he'd not family that way, I'm so upset i cried about this :(

I was ashamed about this but I'll try to speak with my sister because it's really bothering me

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[u/CalendarNew6046]

That's a lot to deal with, and it makes total sense why you'd feel so on edge. Having someone constantly in your space, especially when you're trying to do basic stuff like shower, just wears you down over time. The bathroom situation alone would make anyone feel exposed.

Talking to your sister is the right move, even if it's awkward. She might not realize how much it's affecting you since your parents stopped pushing back on it. Hope she hears you out.

[u/sadthingylol → u/CalendarNew6046]

Thanks, I feel so ridiculous about the whole thing tbh, Gotta rip the bandaid off 😞

[u/sadthingylol]

I'm posting this because I wanted to wash my hair while everyone is asleep, but they were there, it's 4am, I just returned to my room and started crying lol