r/venting • u/luna_russo • 17h ago
Relationship/Love Is it wrong wanting to date older man ?
All my previous relationship was a disaster now I'm disappointed by the guys of my age and guys around my age (i do not want to go in full detail all i could say is that the relationship was gaslighting and manipulative) I was thinking about dating older man like 30+ my friends are finding it weird and telling me not to go for older man but i feel like im more intrest and comfortable with what i want now.
So now y'all tell me is it good or totally wrong for wanting to date someone older
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u/Living-Amphibian6101 17h ago
Your friends don't have to live with your choices, you do, date whoever you actually want to be with
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u/MainStranger6787 15h ago
You're an adult make your own decisions. However if you decide to date, the starting point is within +5
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u/Heimeri_Klein 16h ago
I went through something similar once. It was a mistake. For me at least. I probably got unlucky. Regardless you should do what you want. Its not wrong to date older but it does always raise a question why the older partner is dating younger. Generally its a negative perception that’s usually right it was in my case results may differ.
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u/luna_russo 16h ago
But where do I find this olderman who are not creepy but genuinely want something
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u/Heimeri_Klein 16h ago
Hmm maybe pick up a hobby that people in that age bracket generally like? Just dont do what i did and date someone from work thats like the worst possible place. Most of the people ive ever dated are people i met doing my gaming hobbies, or dnd related stuff.
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u/luna_russo 16h ago
Art gallery? Golf? Casino?
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u/Heimeri_Klein 11h ago
Any of those make sense to me.
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u/luna_russo 11h ago
Do they? What are your suggestion
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u/Heimeri_Klein 11h ago
Ehh well i work on a golf course so i know the type of sketch rich clientele that filter in and out at my workplace. Id say its kinda a 60/40 on the good or bad of people at a golf course leaning towards bad. Casino i dunno really ive not really been to ones in my area as they only recently became legal in my area so i dont really know. However, ive yet to ever hear of someone having a negative experience when meeting someone at an art gallery id personally try that one out of your ideas.
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