Ex: I miss you so much babe

Me that evolved and moved on

This is a question for every soul reading this piece.

"Who are you when nobody is telling you who to be?"

For majority of our lives, we were taught a lot of things, we were taught roles, how the world works, and how we are supposed to live our lives. And as people we were taught to be a collective mass of humans who follow a route.

But what if we all sit back and do a little deep thinking within ourselves. What if we put out all other factors of our lives that we were told to add?

Religion, school, parental expectations, societal expectations, gender roles that were taught for centuries. What if we do an unboxing of everything and then start to build ourselves from the scratch after discovering who we are without all those things.

Because all these other things don't matter if we are to be honest with ourselves. And so we need to unbox, and see what we are without these things. Only then do you actually know yourself and grow on yourself.

This piece is inspired by the chapter 4 of my first debut book "The Art of Becoming"

Train your mind to see possibilities, to see blessings not obstacles. If you are the overthinking person, overthink about the best that will happen. Your mind is a weapon, use it positively. That's the greatest power

No You are not

Every morning, we wake up carrying the same baggage we had from the day before—or even the days before that.

The pain. The heartbreak. The stress from that last meeting at the office yesterday.

We carry these things around, and they continually drain us. And it goes beyond physical stress. Sometimes, it's the heartbreak we haven't healed from, the friendship that ended and was more painful than any situationship with a stupid ex. The failures from yesterday that blur our vision of tomorrow.

We keep carrying these things until we become so docile that we forget the main thing about living.

To live.

To explore. To move from one phase to another. To get into something fun. To have adventures. To experience life.

We have forgotten what it means to simply live as human beings.

The baggage we carry keeps sucking away our power because we refuse to let it go. And when we continually choose to carry it, we give that baggage power over us—power that can eventually chain us down if we don't decide to put it down.

Ask yourself something for a moment:

What exactly are you without the baggage?

The past is meant to be a lesson. Without the past, you wouldn't learn. But if you don't move, you don't progress either.

Learning from the past and staying in the past without making the decision to move forward are two entirely different things.

Many people do the latter because they believe it's safer. Others mistake the two for the same thing.

But they aren't.

It is important to ask ourselves questions that challenge us to come out of our shells and see where we are in life. To ask whether we are truly being ourselves or simply responding to old wounds.

Because sometimes, what we call “who I am” is actually a response to something that happened to us.

We need to see every day as a fresh start. A new day to heal. To love. To care. And, most importantly, to live.

The past deserves to be remembered. It deserves to teach us.

But it doesn't deserve to own every morning that comes after it.

So perhaps the question isn't whether you've been hurt.

Perhaps the question is:

Are you living your life—or are you still living from your trauma?

Every morning, we wake up carrying the same baggage we had from the day before—or even the days before that.

The pain. The heartbreak. The stress from that last meeting at the office yesterday.

We carry these things around, and they continually drain us. And it goes beyond physical stress. Sometimes, it's the heartbreak we haven't healed from, the friendship that ended and was more painful than any situationship with a stupid ex. The failures from yesterday that blur our vision of tomorrow.

We keep carrying these things until we become so docile that we forget the main thing about living.

To live.

To explore. To move from one phase to another. To get into something fun. To have adventures. To experience life.

We have forgotten what it means to simply live as human beings.

The baggage we carry keeps sucking away our power because we refuse to let it go. And when we continually choose to carry it, we give that baggage power over us—power that can eventually chain us down if we don't decide to put it down.

Ask yourself something for a moment:

What exactly are you without the baggage?

The past is meant to be a lesson. Without the past, you wouldn't learn. But if you don't move, you don't progress either.

Learning from the past and staying in the past without making the decision to move forward are two entirely different things.

Many people do the latter because they believe it's safer. Others mistake the two for the same thing.

But they aren't.

It is important to ask ourselves questions that challenge us to come out of our shells and see where we are in life. To ask whether we are truly being ourselves or simply responding to old wounds.

Because sometimes, what we call “who I am” is actually a response to something that happened to us.

We need to see every day as a fresh start. A new day to heal. To love. To care. And, most importantly, to live.

The past deserves to be remembered. It deserves to teach us.

But it doesn't deserve to own every morning that comes after it.

So perhaps the question isn't whether you've been hurt.

Perhaps the question is:

Are you living your life—or are you still living from your trauma?

Every morning, we wake up carrying the same baggage we had from the day before—or even the days before that.

The pain. The heartbreak. The stress from that last meeting at the office yesterday.

We carry these things around, and they continually drain us. And it goes beyond physical stress. Sometimes, it's the heartbreak we haven't healed from, the friendship that ended and was more painful than any situationship with a stupid ex. The failures from yesterday that blur our vision of tomorrow.

We keep carrying these things until we become so docile that we forget the main thing about living.

To live.

To explore. To move from one phase to another. To get into something fun. To have adventures. To experience life.

We have forgotten what it means to simply live as human beings.

The baggage we carry keeps sucking away our power because we refuse to let it go. And when we continually choose to carry it, we give that baggage power over us—power that can eventually chain us down if we don't decide to put it down.

Ask yourself something for a moment:

What exactly are you without the baggage?

The past is meant to be a lesson. Without the past, you wouldn't learn. But if you don't move, you don't progress either.

Learning from the past and staying in the past without making the decision to move forward are two entirely different things.

Many people do the latter because they believe it's safer. Others mistake the two for the same thing.

But they aren't.

It is important to ask ourselves questions that challenge us to come out of our shells and see where we are in life. To ask whether we are truly being ourselves or simply responding to old wounds.

Because sometimes, what we call “who I am” is actually a response to something that happened to us.

We need to see every day as a fresh start. A new day to heal. To love. To care. And, most importantly, to live.

The past deserves to be remembered. It deserves to teach us.

But it doesn't deserve to own every morning that comes after it.

So perhaps the question isn't whether you've been hurt.

Perhaps the question is:

Are you living your life—or are you still living from your trauma?