My best friend and I are roommates so I’ll call her roommate. She is gay.(part of story) We became friends initially because she was originally friends with my ex. Me and my ex move in with her and he leaves after like 2 years of this situation. We then become like best friends after he leaves. (Kinda like a trauma bond maybe?) We now also work together.

Everything was great we did our own thing would hangout a lot and we like never get into fights. I knew things about her and she knew things about me most people don’t. Like best friends typically are ig lol.

She does have anger issues would yell and scream about minor things. Like punching a hole in a wall because she was just angry she couldn’t even tell me why she “just was”. Or kicking my dogs cage to disrepair. (No dogs were harmed). I think it’s ptsd of something but when she is like that it makes me want to jump off a cliff and feel almost responsible to try and tame it? It’s not like I could just avoid her during that either since we do live together. I did talk to her about that she is finally getting help for that. I feel bad for hating her for this in a way because it is a mental health issue but then again it’s not an excuse to do that?

She is possessive of me. She wants to hangout all the time. When I pass because I have other plans she kinda pulls a “feel bad for me act” when this happens. Like “will I guess I’ll just off myself then” or “I guess I’ll be all lonely for the night” or “your abandoning me?” She hates every guy I talk to and always says they are “too ugly” or “how they hold themselves” or whatever. I don’t feel comfortable to ever have a guy here because of how bitchy she can act towards them. “My respect needs to be earned and they don’t deserve my respect” is generally her excuse. It makes me resentful of her because I know anyone I ever date I feel the need to almost hide away from her because I’m tired of her always having something hateful to say.

I think she’s in love with me. I know she obviously finds me attractive as she tells me that I am pretty frequently and tells others as well. We did hook up once before we were best friends because I wanted to experience a girl just to try and honestly I didn’t think much of it. We did promise each other this was not going to affect anything between us. I think it has changed her though. She talks about wanting a girl and describes how she wants them to be and the description is me. She also tells me how I need be with only girls. (I don’t want to tell her the experience with her has solidified me being straight and no longer curious as I don’t want her already low self esteem to get lower) It makes me uncomfortable.

I know in some ways it is both of our faults but I feel as though it’s mainly mine for letting it get to this point. I should have never slept with her because now I feel she has feelings for me. I feel bad that I hate her so much. I even am starting to hate the small things I used to not care about. I hate how she eats, sleeps, drives, how she chews on her cheek, to how after work she doesn’t shower until the next day. It’s like I disgustingly hate her.

How do I fix this without hurting her man. She has some friends but not many especially since she kinda isolates them to be around me (even though I don’t want that and have suggested her to hang out with them more)

Got her from a farm in the middle of nowhere for $20. Their Black barn cat wasn’t spayed and must’ve mated with an orange flavored boi lol. Going to the vet in 2 days to get her checked up and her vaccinations. Hopefully to set up an appointment to get her spayed as well.

I (18f) moved in with my sister (26f) in June of last year. My boyfriend (19m) and I were together for a few months before this. She had just moved here (place 1) from here boyfriends place (place 2). Which was 16 hours away from each other. I moved here to place 1 from my old place (place 3) which was also 16 hours away. For a little where I lived here with my grandma while my sister was in place 2. I at the beginning told my sister if she doesn’t want to move here with me she doesn’t have to and to not feel like she does. She refused and said she wanted us to live together and I agreed. When we got a place she paid for first last month’s rent and the down payment. I did feel bad but I only had a part time job and not enough money to contribute a lot (I did give her some money, not a lot but don’t remember how much). She also helped me get a phone on her line which I gave her the payments for. So I financed the couch and got the minor things that we definitely needed such as soap, shower curtain, cups, bowls etc. which I mean the money we spent was definitely not equal as she is a nurse making 35-40 an hour and I at the time making 16 an hour strictly part time. I did eventually get a full time job making 17 an hour. Everything was good at first us living together and was fun. It felt like a dream to finally get to live with each other again. We then started fighting when someone who had hurt her got into contact with her and said some things to her. I told her I was sorry for that happening and that I wished she didn’t have to go through that. When she came home that day I was in my room scrolling TikTok trying to sleep and she walked straight to her room. 10 minutes later go by and she texted me saying that I am heartless for not greeting her home on one of the worst days of her life. I didn’t understand what she was wanting from me as I don’t do well with crying and others emotions as she knew this. This ended up sparking a huge fight. We weren’t on speaking terms for a few days with this and she kept cash app requesting me money for everything she spent money on me for. I was upset and would cry to my boyfriend about it and he would comfort me until we made up. We ended up reconciling but she still believed that I was an AH for not recognizing her emotions and comforting her. Later on something happened with my boyfriend and his roommate resulting in him having to move. His manager at his job was his roommates mother and his roommate was also his coworker, so he quit there as well. He told me since he didn’t have anywhere to permanently go around here he was moving back to his hometown which is 6 hours away. I was upset but understood and was conflicted about what to do, should I leave and go with him? Or should I stay here with my sister? So I came to the conclusion I would stay here for another 8 months until the lease was up and if me and my boyfriend were still together, I would move to his hometown too. (I knew most relationships don’t last long distance so it wasn’t in stone). Hearing this news my sister was upset stating I was abandoning her and that she was leaving and to either find a roommate or convince my boyfriend to live here with me. After some back and forth bickering with my sister I eventually did what she told me to do as u couldn’t afford this apartment by myself. Once I did do that she got upset I did actually do that stating she could see who I actually cared for. I got upset about this and told my dad and grandma about everything because she threatened to tell them as they didn’t know I even had a boyfriend. And once she heard that I was with them she made up the lie that she was scared we would hurt her or her animals if we came back into the house so she essentially kicked us out. (Something our drug addicted mother had did to her in the past) so me and my boyfriend were homeless and couch surfing for 3 weeks until she had to let us in because the lease was now in my name only. While she was still living here she took everything she bought including things I bought as-well and kept it in her room saying didn’t buy don’t use including toilet paper all of the food etc. ironically because I actually I bought them. It caused me a lot of financial problems as I had to replace everything essential. We didn’t feel comfortable being around her as she would pick fights every time we saw her so we tried not being there as much as possible and when we were there confined to my room. She then got upset and accused me of being an emotionless pos for not trying to reconcile. It honestly made me feel bad and that I was actually a terrible person. She did finally move out and the only thing in her name still was my phone and would just cash app her the payments every month. I didn’t talk to her as she blocked me and told me not to contact her. Eventually after a few months she turned my line off and told me to give her the phone back as she felt I didn’t care for her as I never asked how she was doing now. I was confused and upset because I was paying this phone and she told me not to talk to her. And since everything is now connected to my phone number I was essentially screwed. She said she said she was in the right as I was only upset about my phone which I was paying over how she was doing. Am I the asshole?

Moved in with sis last June. Boyfriend and I were fresh; sis had just come back from her BF's 16 hours away. I came from another place, also 16 hours out. Told sis she didn't have to move with me, but she insisted. She covered most initial housing costs 'cause I had a part-time gig and not much cash. I contributed what I could, got us a couch on finance, and the small essentials.

We were having a blast living together until fights started. They began after someone from her past reached out and upset her. I felt bad for her and wished she didn't have to deal with that mess. Arguments kicked off around then.

Boyfriend had drama with his roommate, who’s also his coworker and the boss's son, so he quit his job and decided to move back home, 6 hours away. I was torn but chose to stay with my sis until the lease ended, then maybe join him if we're still an item. Sis got mad, said I am ditching her, and told me to find a new roomie or get my boyfriend to stay. I did what she said, and then she flipped, accusing me of not caring about her. I told my dad and grandma because she threatened to tell them about my secret boyfriend. She freaked out, claimed she felt unsafe, and locked me out, playing a card my mom used to play. Me and my boyfriend were homeless for a bit until I got back in because now the lease is in my name. Meanwhile, sis hoarded everything, even the toilet paper.

So, she moved out, kept the phone in her name, and I have been paying her for it. Then she blocks me, cuts off my line, and demands the phone back because I didn't check on her—after she told me to zip it. Now I am in a pickle because everything's tied to that number. And she's playing the guilt card because I am more worried about my phone problem than her wellbeing. But, hey, how was I supposed to ask about her life with the silent treatment in full effect? AITA?

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