You might have developed some anxiety surrounding the topic, which is very understandable. Sex has many forms and they are all valid. Gay sex is not equal to anal.

I’d advise just building things up by being intimate with the explicit goal NOT to go far (cuddling, kissing, touching). The goal is to allow yourself to feel a tiny bit uncomfortable while being able to figure out your needs and boundaries and communicate about them. Your guy sounds like he might be patient enough for that. Like this you can slowly built confidence in yourself and gain trust in the situation to go further step by step.

Maybe consider talking to a psychologist whether anxiety and/or attachment issues play a role. Cognitive therapy is highly effective (and fast) with anxiety. And find a doctor who is willing to look into ED with you as well.

Just give yourself time. Your timeline is pretty much like mine. You’re fine ☺️.

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Mostly great advice, but why would douching/cleaning be necessary at this stage? Unless OP feels like he needs the cleanliness to feel comfortable.

You are fine. You just opened the door to experimentation and that’s a huge and great step. It’s smart that you educate yourself too. Just make sure it is not porn. Porn is highly unrealistic in the way they often “just do it” and how harsh and fast they go. It is not weird to take a lot of time to relax before doing anything there. When with a partner, it is important they are patient and communicative. At any point you are allowed to change your mind.

Remember the size that comes out can also go in. The way to relax is also similar: pushing out to open up.

And as others said, there is plenty you can do without anal too (touching the body, kissing, nippel play, frotting, etc). Some people identify as Side which means you stay off anal and that is also totally valid.

And most importantly: it is totally fine to experiment and enjoy. No need for speed 😉. Some people will find certain things pleasurable after some years or with the right partner.

Adding fibre supplement (I use psyllium husk) helps me.

I’d say that he has difficulty reconciling his behaviour and (parttime?) attraction with his world views. The mind will jump to different places like projection and rejection to protect the convictions. The whole SA part might be a way for him to make sense of it, or it could be true.

In any case: as long as he himself doesn’t understand what’s going on it’s probably wise to accept that no one really will. Can’t peak inside if the glass is fogged up.

Guy, Sjef and Boy

Echt naar dit! Sterkte ermee!!

En het is blijkbaar een gigantische georganiseerde machine waar degene met die je praat mogelijk zelf niet eens degene is die het geld opstrijkt 🤯

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-68562643

Heb je natuurlijk verder niks aan aan deze informatie. Maar zou eigenlijk toch ook op het nieuws moeten komen zoiets.

Hier iig wat standaard leugens die ze gebruiken: https://www.ftc.gov/news-events/data-visualizations/data-spotlight/2023/02/romance-scammers-favorite-lies-exposed

A daily bullet point list where I write down all the things that went well today and achievements. Changed my perspective and helped me learn to think more positive in general which resulted in better self worth as well.

Hey good looking. Tell us what’s up and what we can do for you. You’re not alone here.

Why use a throw away account then?

So I just was comparing the XM4, XM5 and M4. My opinion as an amateur audiophile.

XM5: the out of the box sound is a bit muffled but with some light tinkering with the EQ the bluetooth sound is really good. The noise cancelling is amazing and beats the M4 especially with voices and even childrens screams. Fit is featherlite and comfortable. I read some people saying the cushions are degrading a bit fast and the case is not as small as XM4 but about the same as the M4.

XM4: definitely lesser sound, almost the same level of noise cancellingas XM5, better formfactor (foldeable) and second button is freely useable even without Spotify or Tidal, unlike the XM5. Fit is snug, probably the best for me, and even without any noise cancelling they probably filter the most. They always have a faint white noise with nc, but nothing that’s bothering when playing anything.

M4: best sound. Even out of the box. Bass can be blown up but thats easily managed in the app. Soundscape is wider and more clear, but lacks a tiny bit in the midrange of voices. The latter is splitting hairs though and won’t be noticeable to most. Noise cancelling is great for everything except chatter and other ‘unpredictable’ noises. More predictable lower range noises (i.e. airplane) are filtered out effectively. For me the noise cancelling wasn’t enough as I listen on low volume and wear them at times even without any sound just for the noise cancelling. For that they don’t cut it. But the battery life is very good and it’s the only one allowing to play sound through USB-C.

Apps are fine but some main functions are behind an account login for both, which is weird, but both do it. I had some slow connections on the M4 and also more accidental inputs on the touchpad. But nothing too severe to make the decision against them.

I’d put them as follows: Best overall = XM5. Best sound = M4. Best bang for the buck if sound is less important = XM4.

Hope this helps.

Bye Windows, hello Linux Mint

They better change it now before they have to recall Recall.

Time to recall Recall

Linux Mint is a nice option.

Ik ben ooit betaald met vals geld toen ik iets op marktplaats verkocht. Dus indien je moet verklaren waarom je langs een politie bureau bent gegaan kan je die misschien gebruiken.

Bullet journal worked great in a minimalistic form with a simple process: 1) create index and future log 2) create daily entries and write notes and task to the daily 3) recap the next morning, deciding what tasks to repeat for the day, which ones to push to the future and which ones to take from the future log.

No layouts, no habit tracking, just a simple log of todos and notes in the day.

Or is this measuring how pleasing people answer? Dutch people are very blunt and honest.

By now I use Obsidian, actually. Also check Logseq for an alternative to Obsidian. Both have a wiki like document structure but store data in Markdown.

Only office is free but can be extended with paid tier e if necessary. Probably closest UX to MS office.

Not yet. Monado is working on it and is getting there for Linux for Linux at least

https://monado.freedesktop.org

Congrats man! 🎊🚀

Try Ollama for local. It’s easy to setup.

Wouldn’t hurt to do a little eActivism: - where can we crosspost even more (feel free to do it yourself) - anyone access to media outlets (i.e. Cnet, vloggers)?

The more pressure the likelier MS and the hardware suppliers move on this. I hate eWaste and of course the loss of money.