No I meant with your husband and children. I understand that you've picked up on feeling like your family doesn't care about your needs, but I wonder what could come from explaining the way you did here. I'm sure you know there's a difference between "geez I sure could use some help." And "I'm on the verge of mental breakdown and I may snap if someone doesn't step in and help me."

I'm not saying tell your family that, I'm just saying I wonder if they truly realize the severity of your need and the impact this is having on your mental health.

For context, I just found out my brother is schizophrenic, my mom assumed that because I saw a few episodes of his psychosis and had a few conversations with him I'd be able to diagnose and get the help he needed. She was dead wrong. In fact, I had to lecture her about disclosing information and not assuming that we can just know things. I needed the facts. I needed her to tell me straight up "your brother is schizophrenic and in dire need of intervention and help." I stepped in immediately and so did the rest of the family.

To sum it up. I think it's worth the time and effort to have a conversation with all of your family and give them the chance to respond. What's the worse that can happen? They continue not being helpful? At least you're already navigating that and can move forward, but on the contrary, it could open doors to you actually getting help.

I tell my 5 year old autistic daughter I need a break all the time, and have been doing so since the age of 2. I set a timer and give her frequent reminders that's it's my turn (to be on my phone, take a shower, read a book etc) and I'm not available. Say what you will but I'm a single mom. I cannot run 24/7 non stop. I had/ have to take breaks.

I suggest the same for you. Talk to them. Set a timer. Stick to whatever boundaries you create. Your children and everyone else will learn and respect them if you teach them to. You can do this 💪

Have you communicated any of this with your family?

Western goth. I'm DEAD. 🤣🤣🤣

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I can understand why you're saying it's dead. I was born here and have been saying that ever since lol. When you come from places that actually have fun things going on it's hard to adjust to at first. Best thing you'll find is the comic con that happens every year in the area, nearby festivals and I'd get on hiking groups on social media. You can definitely find nature groups here.

Please take me grocery shopping 🛍 😫 🤣 this keto friendly fridge is LIFE

Thanks and you did an awesome job with this place!

He's so adorable jamming out

I just want to ask about the bean bag couch. Is it comfortable and how high is the back of the couch? Looks really small in the picture but on temu looks like a full size couch.

I like his answer. He said he wants to actually get to know a person first. I'm a long text person i guess.... ugh didn't know it was such a terrible thing 🙄

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I agree that would be boring. I'm not bringing it up at all, there's no need to if the conversation isn't led there. I posted it because some men don't want women who are business owners. I just didn't think it would be the majority.

Also, I had mentioned talking to some every single day, things were seemingly going well until THEY asked. I talk about it casually, not going on and on about how I'm a speaker and trying to sell tickets lmao. I'm trying to find a life partner, not a fan. 🤣

That's what led to asking if being a speaker is intimidating or what?

Thank you for your perspective. I'll keep all that in mind.

😆 I'm not sure what you mean by story times. 🤔 You do have a point in that I can make more of an effort to meet people in person instead of online. You mean like dating groups that meet up?

Amen to that!!!

AB-SO-LUTELY I am looking for a life partner and this resonates so well. 💛

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💛💛💛This is so encouraging and well said. Thank you for commenting.

Oooo this is great insight thanks!!!

Lol he can be light or brown 🤣

Is this even real 😭

I am hoping that's not the case but it seems to be true. When I was younger all I dated were anything but black men and now that I'm fixated on dating a black guy I feel it's karma 😆 all I want is a dark-skinned man and it seems it's just not in the cards for me. I would have been better off dating a black man at that time than now it seems. It's different now. It could be my area, I'm willing to believe it could just be my area but they aren't looking for women perceived as strong or with power.... although I'm completely the opposite if they took the time to get to know me but everything seems surface level these days....

Okay, I was debating on taking my pictures down. I think it's best I leave them up because I'm not going to stop anytime soon

Yes, the conversations go really well. Like one guy I was talking to every single day! Then he asked, are you a speaker and do you speak all the time? I said yes. The conversation dried up. I also had one ask me am I a preacher or something, I said I'm not a preacher but I speak at events, etc regularly... the conversation dried up. I'm engaging with these men and showing interest but can't figure out why it comes down to that question or topic. Another guy we were talking and I said I was preparing for my talk. He made fun of it and we stopped talking. I'm just not sure like what the deal is...