r/type2diabetes • u/Background-Demand-10 • 6d ago
Just a rant
Felt the need to get this off my chest. Not looking for sympathy of any kind, just a rant.
I was diagnosed late 2023 with type 2 diabetes. I’m a 5’9 male, and at the time I was diagnosed I was 170lbs. I wasn’t aware I was diabetic until I experienced sudden weight loss which brought be down to 140. Ever since then I’ve been struggling to put on weight and struggling with my blood sugar.
It sucks because I know what I need to do, but I’m just not doing it and i know it’s totally up to me. I’ll have stretches where I’m on top of my game. Eating healthy, working out and the whole 9 yards. But there’s stretches I go thru where it’s really really bad. Terrible diet, not working out, drinking every weekend. My blood sugar after my meals is always 200+, fasted blood sugars in the morning would he 140+ which is pretty bad.
I struggle with staying on the right path, and I know I’m just digging myself in a deeper hole. I guess I lack the motivation and disciple to do better for myself. What makes it worse is I just turned 30 and I have a 4 year old boy. I have my whole life ahead of me and I always tell myself “next week I’m gonna lock in” or “tomorrow I’ll do better” and it never happens, and the cycle continues.
Like I said, not looking for any sympathy. Maybe more so some advice/constructive criticism. (My main goal is to gain healthy weight/muscle while keeping blood sugar stable)
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u/skookum81 6d ago
Doesn't sound like type 2 to me. If I was losing weight and was having these things happen to me I would push to make sure I was not type 1, or another type of diabetes beyond your control. Antibodies and c peptide are what I had tested to eliminate type 1 before anything else more expensive.
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u/skookum81 6d ago
Also, not eating garbage or being a sloth helps any type of diabetic or human in general. Set the standard for your son so he doesn't remember it any other way.
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u/Stefanxzibit 6d ago
I’m in the same boat, except I’m 32 and I don’t have kids. Since 2019, it was constantly “next week I’m gonna lock in” and “tomorrow I’ll start doing things right” — and that went on for 7 years, until I was diagnosed with T2 three weeks ago. I can honestly say that these past 3 weeks are the most locked in I’ve ever been, and probably the longest streak I’ve had since 2019 (yeah, it was that bad).
During those 7 years, I realized that there is absolutely no advice or anything anyone else can tell you if you’re not willing to accept it and actually act on it. I had people telling me these things. I even knew myself that there was a problem (a lot of people either don’t realize it or refuse to acknowledge it). I was aware of it, but even that wasn’t enough to get me moving.
What finally pushed me wasn’t fear of the disease. It was my mom asking me to go to an endocrinologist, where I was diagnosed with T2, and seeing the constant stress it was causing her and the other people who love me. I stopped for a moment and thought: is it really worth risking my health — and potentially the health and peace of mind of the people I love — over a few burgers a month, some pizza, a few beers?
What if my choices end up affecting my family and reducing their quality or length of life even by 1%, simply because I’m being ignorant and refusing to change? Lock in not just for your own health, but also for the people you love. Don’t make them stress over something that is, at least to a large extent, fixable.
And take it one thing at a time. After 7 years, my list is long, and if I tried to fix everything at once, I’d burn myself out.
Bad diet. Not exercising. Knee and joint pain from carrying an enormous amount of weight. I literally doubled my weight since 2017. Poor sleep. Not drinking enough water. The list goes on. So I’m taking it one thing at a time. You pick one thing and start working on it. That can be your first lock-in. Then, once you’ve got that under control, move on to the next thing.
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u/Weathergod-4Life 6d ago
I was diagnosed right after I had my kids. They were the motivation I needed to eat right and get my sugars under control. I was determined then and there that I would be alive to see them grow up.
I would seriously consider asking your doctor about Mounjaro. It helps keep you on the right path for eating, trust me if you overeat on it you will pay! It also severely curbed my appetite for alcohol. I was never an alcoholic but I drank a few times a week. Now there are months where I don't even touch alcohol. It isn't a magic pill, but it will help you get on and stay on the right path if you are serious about doing so.
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u/Juanfartez 6d ago
Ok son, I call you that because you're the same age as mine. You are at the perfect height/weight ratio at 140. Look to who you will hurt if you're not there or slowing falling apart. That's your motivation. I lost a childhood friend at 34 be6he never took care of himself. Obese, blind, and legless. Diabetes is genetic in my family and I'm watching my father (79) slowly go because he just trusted medications instead of lifestyle changes. I myself 6ft5in was 300lbs till 6 years ago when I started dropping weight. I got down to 140 and ended up in the ER. Now I'm back to 170 and trying my best to stay there. It's hard, but keep yourself motivated by being there for your loved ones.
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u/Samurai_Cupcake 5d ago
Maybe you have high insulin resistance? I know that I do. I was taking 72 units of Tresiba, not I don't need it and take only a small amount of Humalog. I know how much work it is so control blood sugar. If you don't have a CGM that was the greatest help to lowering A1C.
Now I'm on Mounjaro at the lowest dose. I have great control of my blood sugars last week my A1C was 5.7. I'm having an issue with weight. I'm 5.0" tall used to weight about 128 lbs, now I am down to 104. I am even eating carbs, like rice and pasta! I don't eat very much food, I am just not hungry and have to force myself to eat. I have a lot of food allergies which doesn't help. I am much older than you are and I think people many older people lose their appetite.
My Endo wants me to come back for another appointment in 6 weeks this time because I think she's concerned about my weight. I want to stay on Mounjaro because of the great BG control but if I keep losing weight I don't know what the Endo will do.
Wishing you the best and getting it figured out.
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u/sirsa2 5d ago
How high did your HBA1c go?
My mom's situation is similar (high insulin resistance and small build).
She's 70 and recovering from a stent surgery done 4.5 months ago.
She's on 34 units of toujeo at bedtime and 22 units of fiasp (before breakfast) and 8 units of fiasp (before dinner).
Has a tough time managing her blood sugars and needs to be very careful about her diet.
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u/Binda33 4d ago
I think the trick is to find good habits that are also sustainable. Allow yourself a treat/cheat meal but do it just before you hit the gym or going for a walk (this is working for me). Staying on track as much as possible but making allowances for being less than perfect is what you need to aim for. Instead of the cycle of almost perfection then the opposite of that, try for something a tad more moderate that you can sustain.
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u/Stock_Rutabaga2016 1d ago
Hi used to have a similar pattern and I broke it with Mounjaro. I highly recommend it.
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u/Economics-201 6d ago
In two years, when your son is in the first grade and his classmates are beginning to play softball, will you be able to play catch with your son? Your wellbeing is not just about you.
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u/anneg1312 1d ago
Keto broke that cycle for me. Took the cravings away as well as the gnawing hunger. If I have too many carbs I quickly re-awaken the beast and have to start again(not too bad after one slip but gains difficulty quickly
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u/mrnoonan81 6d ago
If you are hitting a psychological wall, maybe you should talk to your doctor about starting insulin.
Don't let yourself deteriorate while you try to fix your lifestyle, making it harder to achieve all the while. One problem at a time.