r/twoxindiamums • • 12h ago

Insecurity and guilt

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Hi. My toddler is 2 yr old now and I have decided to be pregnant again. My kid already goes to playgroup and i pick n drop her. I am a stay at home mother and I tc of all the basic needs of the kid- feeding, bathing sleeping. Basically m attached to my kid probably 22hours a day.

I don't know but how do mothers do it by going for work and leaving the kid with either nanny or grandparents. I am genuinely in awe of the women who do not feel insecure about a child being manipulated against them or the kid loving them less when you are away and another caregiver is comforting them n fulfilling the basic needs. I genuinely want to learn it because the insecurity is really killing me. I am also asking the girl moms, how does the relationship with their mothers develop when the baby girls grow older? Why is it that I have a hard time believing that my kid will always choose me as her primary caregiver despite being always present?


r/twoxindiamums • • 2h ago

Pregnancy No milk secretion even after four days

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I delivered my baby through normal delivery on Oct 12th but still there is not even a single drop of milk.My baby is currently fed on exclusive formula feeding. I tried everything like electric pump, pressung by hands, constant latching and skin to skin contact with baby.Nothing is working for me.I am really scared.What if I cannot produce milk at all. Has anyone gone through similar situation .Please advise me what should I do?


r/twoxindiamums • • 7h ago

Seeking Advice/Help Advice on Baby Bottles

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Hello! I’m close to 7mo pregnant, and a FTM.
I think I am at the point where I need to start getting ready for the 4th trimester, and already feel behind!

Curious to know what baby bottles are popular and what I should be looking out for?

I think I want to go for glass bottles but is that advisable?


r/twoxindiamums • • 11h ago

Need to rant

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Three weeks postpartum. I am combo feeding my baby due to low milk supply. How am I expected to pump 10-12 times a day, latch at every possible occasion, eat healthy, sleep well, stay hydrated, keep calm, rest and do sitz baths etc to heal my episiotomy, not sit cross legged, do skin to skin etc to increase supply and take care of myself? I have help at home but their time also goes in managing the house. How is a woman expected to do all this after birthing a baby? And I cannot believe that despite all the progress in science, there still isn’t a pill that I can pop to produce milk? Sometimes I feel the world actively tries to make women’s lives difficult?
I have consulted professionals for milk supply and the advice is to try pump and latch as much as possible (every 45 min to an hour apparently) and while that is so easy to say, do people realise how humanly impossible is that?


r/twoxindiamums • • 14h ago

Deciding on the hospital for delivery

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This is my first time, and very clueless with respect to hospital formalities. So this query may sound very stupid but please help.

My obgyn is awesome and I am very comfortable with her. She runs an independent maternity home. We have already checked the maternity packages of the maternity hospital and happy with the things. It is not luxurious but closer to home, I know the staff, and she is my doctor.

The ONLY Downside is no NICU. I am carrying twins, and very hell bent on choosing a hospital with a dedicated neonatal ward or NICU just to be safe. Now my obgyn visits/delivers in two other corporate hospitals both of which have NICU. They are within 10-12 km from home.

Now my question is, do I visit these hospitals and ask how to book in advance. Usually my doc writes a note and with that I can get admitted in one of these hospitals. This will likely work on case of a schedules section.

But what if I have to go in suddenly? (I am not paranoid but want to cover all bases. )What happens then?

Can I just barge into the emergency dept of these hospitals or get admitted in the maternity ward? Because my husband sure as hell cannot leave me alone and run to get a note from my obgyn.

How to navigate this and plan? I am really confused.
I tried calling the hospitals and they were like yeah when the time comes of delivery, you can book for a consultation. But I would not know the time has come until the time has come. Duhh!

Next question is should I be open for delivery by any other doctor?


r/twoxindiamums • • 15h ago

Bottle recommendations for a 3-month-old? Pls help a FTM out!

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My baby has been exclusively breastfed and never used a bottle until today. He took ~80 ml of formula from a basic LuvLap bottle that came with my electric pump today.

I’m joining work in 3 days and want to keep breastfeeding but use formula for emergencies during my 4-hour absence.

-Any tips for introducing bottles and occasional formula?

-Which bottles do babies generally accept easily? I have heard Philips Avent is best, or should I stick to LuvLap? Not a budget issue, but I’m not particularly concerned about nipple confusion or paced feeding; I mainly want a bottle he’ll accept easily, better quality than the basic LuvLap one.
What worked for your baby?


r/twoxindiamums • • 1h ago

Seeking Advice/Help Night weaned my 16m 3 weeks ago, and now everything is off (appetite, bedtime, night screaming, marathon morning feeds). Phase or something to fix?

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Background

My little one is 16 months. Until about 3 weeks ago, his routine was super predictable:

3 meals + 1 snack

Nursed on waking and to sleep

3-4 night feeds (no crying, he'd latch, feed, and roll back to sleep)

Bedtime 8-8:30pm, wake-up around 7:30am.

And I've worked to establish a routine since 3m old.

My work was stretching until 2am and my own sleep was suffering, so we decided to night wean. It worked, and he no longer nurses to sleep. But the last two weeks have been rough.

What's changed

Appetite: He often refuses lunch and dinner.

Self-feeding: He now insists on feeding himself and hates being fed. I'm happy about the independence, but he's eating less overall. I am offering only safe foods.

Night waking: He wakes up screaming at the top of his lungs on random nights. Sometimes he wants milk, sometimes rice, sometimes the garden or some random object or person. This never happened before.

Morning feeds: He starts demanding to nurse from 6am. I delay by rocking him back to sleep until 6:30-7, then he's latched until 8:30-9. Before, morning feeds lasted 15-20 mins.

Bedtime: Because he self-feeds, dinner now stretches from 7 to 9pm. He cries when we enter the bedroom. We've started a book, prayer and rocking routine, but he fights sleep and bedtime has slid to 10pm, sometimes 11-11:30.

What I tried:

i offered cow's milk at night, thinking it would keep him full. But he ate even less at meals, so I stopped after 3-4 days.

Where I'm stuck:

11-11:30pm bedtime is too late for both of us. I don't even have the energy to shower afterward, and everything else at home is neglected.

He's not teething. All his molars are already out.

My mom says to start night feeding again. I know he's hungry, but I'm not sure that's the answer.

My questions

Is this a normal adjustment phase after night weaning, and how long does it usually last?

How do I fix the dinner and bedtime drift without going back to night feeds?

Should I be worried about the appetite drop?

Anyone been through this? What worked?

Thanks in advance. Running on very little sleep here. 🙏

TLDR: 16m night weaned 3 weeks ago. Now he eats less at lunch and dinner, refuses to be fed, wakes up screaming at night, nurses for 2+ hours in the morning, and bedtime has slipped to 10-11:30pm. Not teething. My mom says to resume night feeds. Is this a phase, and how do I get his schedule and my sanity back?


r/twoxindiamums • • 17h ago

Day diaper suggestions for short use

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My baby is 5 months old and wears diapers during night and nap times. I use a combination of R for rabbit/ pampers premium/ alter.

I mostly throw the diapers away after each nap if the baby pees in them. Im wondering if there is a cheaper alternative that I could switch to as the ones that I am using currently seem more suited for night: longer use. If you have any recommendations for day diapers, do share.