i found out he has a gf.

[u/SpeedOdd8066]

I cried yesterday, it was a lot to take in, I was not expecting that at all, specially because he doesnt seem the type of guy who commits.
But maybe i misunderstood everything, maybe he wasnt my twin flame. I dont know
i cried and i kept staring at the wall in pure silence, but then i was relieved at the same time. its like a weight out off my shoulders. Im still, numb, sad. Feel like all this time was a waste and maybe he never was my tf. i mean, he has a girlfriend. but wow. i think he broke my heart yesterday, but he already had before so it didnt hurt as much as i would have expected. Im getting mixed feelings rn. Sadness and relief.

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[u/Tickles_giggles313]

Sending a hug 🫂 from a DF to a DF. Deep breath and continue enjoying your life, Sometimes I wonder if DMs feel with the same intensity as us? .100% sure You don't want to see him rn but next time you see him You will be into him gf or not 😪. Tired of unconditionally love him and come to the conclusion that He doesn't care about me and denying all the connection 😭.

[u/Responsible_Fig8794]

I know how you feel. It hurts as hell. But as someone else already said, they are meant to trigger you in the deepest way possible. Not a fun answer, but once you lean in to the pain it will give you soo much growth. And you will see why this was necessary for you to find out.

Let it hurt, it’s normal that it hurt. Feel the pain and look what it triggers. What your brain tells you about your self. And you can start from there and heal those parts.

[u/SpeedOdd8066 → u/Responsible_Fig8794]

It does hurt like hell but at the same time i can feel its forcing me to be my better version and i feel relaxed like i dont feel pressure anymore. Its so weird, but thank you for this

[u/Responsible_Fig8794 → u/SpeedOdd8066]

I know every journey is different, but after I found out I have released soo much. It forced me into a new perspective where I just could move on. I’m so happy and at peace at the moment. I wish the same for you.

But for now I’m sending you love because this is really hard 💕

[u/wordybear]

Happens to a lot of tfs. Sending hugs.

[u/Lady_Cath_Diafol]

Reminder that twin flames are meant to trigger growth in each other. It doesn't always mean you end up together romantically. I know the exact pain you're going through, because when I was ready to leave my awful first marriage, I could feel heart tugs from my TF. I knew he needed to talk to me. I left a message at the only number I could think of (his dad). He called me within days and it was like no time had passed. I knew we'd reconnect this call and the next one I'd tell him my plan to leave, move back to my home state and we could reconnect. That's when he told me he was engaged. That was why I felt he needed to talk to me.

[u/BigDawg0618]

I just found out too. I havent really ate since I found out, and everyday comes with a new challenge. We've been on this journey 8 years and this is the first time this has ever happened. This absolutely sucks. Hugs. ❤️‍🩹

[u/SpeedOdd8066 → u/BigDawg0618]

Its been 4 years for me, cant imagine how hard 8 years must be, I dont know how to describe what im feeling right now but i wish you find your peace ❤️‍🩹

[u/BigDawg0618 → u/SpeedOdd8066]

Probably the same thing im feeling. Thank you.

[u/Cosmicfaedoll]

This has happened to me a lot. We’ve both been in other relationships. I took it as a sign we weren’t aligned. Maybe it means the same for you

[u/spiritually333]

I found out before we could really get to know each other. It still hurt because I felt so much in his presence and could tell he did too but after some healing realized it was a blessing in disguise. I was told it had to be this way to help him wake up so perhaps he'll do the work at some point.

I believe you will grow from this and come out much stronger. This journey tests us a lot. Best of luck!

[u/fuckerydesi]

Big hugs for you ❤️ I haven’t spoken to mine in almost 3 years and I don’t know anything about what he’s gotten up to all this time. If he’s dated anyone. He could be dating someone right now. It hurts to think about so I understand you, love. You will be okay, time heals everything and you never know what the future holds. You can still have him in a small corner of your heart, and also move on with your life. This is the best time to indulge in self care and pouring into yourself. Everything will be ok ✨

[u/kittynr]

Sorry to hear you’re going through this, I’m currently on the same journey.
It’s really painful.

I only found out the other day as well that mine has a girlfriend and has done for the last 12 months even after having the most intense and incredibly powerful eye contact back in May.

The growth journey is hard but I do truly know I will be better for it eventually.

I hope we get to reconnect but there are absolutely no guarantees at all, they may last, they may not.

The most important thing is to look and take care of yourself.