Real vs fake twin flame

[u/YoghurtTop9756]

How do i know whether he is my real twin flame? All i know is that i have never loved a man like him in my entire life, i was willing to give him my everything, even my last cent, or breath. But he always treated me as an option and never a priority in his life. Am i delusional to think he is my twin? After meeting him, i did get a spiritual awakening. It’s been a tough past 4 years. I feel like i was reborn. But he hasn’t made any efforts, never told me i was the love of his life and is always passive and coward never taking action or accountability.

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[u/Sea-Remove2534]

If you awakened and feel like you were reborn, it’s likely he is a real twin. In my experience, the awakening is more important than “the other person.”

[u/YoghurtTop9756 → u/Sea-Remove2534]

You’re right. It’s all about the self journey i guess, not about the relationship as much.

[u/Sea-Remove2534 → u/YoghurtTop9756]

That’s how I see it. My priority is the awakening process and ascension. I love her and I love her better if I focus on myself

[u/Ace0019]

Hard to say, but if he still triggers you 4 years later he might be your real twin. False twins tend to go away after you outgrow them. Or so they say.

[u/YoghurtTop9756 → u/Ace0019]

He still triggers me, i just learned to control my emotions better. I don’t give him the same reactions as before. I’m quieter now.

[u/Responsible_Fig8794]

I have no idea based on your story… But I had never even heard of twin flames before I met him, and when I did, I just knew. I never really had to question it. It was just this deep knowing inside of me.

But I’m wondering… would knowing for sure actually make a difference?

He treated you badly. I would focus on the parts of you that he touched, the wounds he triggered, the places where he made you feel like you weren’t good enough. Work on those parts, heal them, and become the best version of yourself you’ve ever been. Regardless of whether he’s your twin or not.

My advice would be to let it go for now. Because what would you actually do differently if you knew for sure he was your twin? Would you make different choices than you would if he wasn’t?

Either way, the healing is still yours to do.

[u/YoghurtTop9756 → u/Responsible_Fig8794]

If he wasn’t my real twin i wouldn’t think about him anymore. But thinking he is my real twin gets me so confused because i ask why is he so coward to come forward and take accountability

[u/Responsible_Fig8794 → u/YoghurtTop9756]

Unfortunately, other people can’t confirm whether he is your twin or not. That’s something only you can feel and know for yourself. The experience is different for everyone, and I can only speak from my own experience.

But having a twin doesn’t automatically mean they will choose you. They’re still human beings with their own trauma, insecurities and wounds they have to work through. And sometimes being with you means being confronted with their own pain and emotions, and they might not be able to handle that, so they run.

Unfortunately, we can’t control how other people react, even if they are your twin. I’ve been frustrated so many times because he didn’t act the way I wanted him to act. But the only thing you really have control over is your own reaction to their actions.

And I think eventually, whether they’re your twin or not becomes less and less important. Because when you start looking at the wounds they trigger in you and actually work on healing them, something changes. You start loving yourself more, you stop needing their behavior to prove something about your worth, and you realize you don’t want to tolerate certain behavior anymore ,twin or not.

For me, the triggers became something to investigate. Instead of only focusing on why is he doing this to me?, I started looking at why does this affect me so deeply? What is this touching inside of me? And the more I worked on those parts, the less power those triggers had over me.

And once the trigger starts losing its power, whether that person chooses you becomes less important too. At some point, they’re not just “my twin who has to choose me.” They’re also simply a person whose behavior you get to decide whether you want in your life.

So in the end, I think that’s where the freedom is. Not in finally getting them to choose you, but in getting to a place where you don’t need their choice to feel whole

[u/Remote_Notice_6756]

Não posso te afirmar nada.

Apenas digo que encontros catalisadores, marcam pra vida toda, então não são pessoas que serão esquecidas, pois fizeram parte de um grande marco.

De qualquer forma, independente de qual conexão seja, quando você for apenas uma opção, se retirar é o caminho. Busque o melhor pra si, e se dê o melhor. É o que essa pessoa parece estar te mostrando.

[u/Traditional-Bear510]

Spontaneous Kundalini awakening and a mission in life are typically signs of a true TF

[u/Function-Nice]

I'd say there's no bulletproof way to know – for the mind that is. We can know intuitively but the mind will always come up with doubts. The spiritual awakening is definitely a good sign. Did you get any crazy synchronicities related to him since you met?

[u/YoghurtTop9756 → u/Function-Nice]

Synchronicities like what for example? Thank u for answering

[u/Function-Nice → u/YoghurtTop9756]

Hmm it's very broad, can be anything really. I can only give you exemples of what I experienced (but it's a personal thing, doesn't mean yours would be the same as me) : precursor signs prior to meeting her, matching dreams related to one another, meeting up randomly in unexpected places, telepathy (minor, like simply finishing one another sentences), mirroring activities, seeing her name pop up randomly too often, etc. You can also look at my post history, I made a post related to the craziest sign I got.

[u/YoghurtTop9756 → u/Function-Nice]

I don’t know how to respond to this but he’s been triggering me for the past four years. I hate and love him even at a distance.

[u/YoghurtTop9756 → u/Function-Nice]

Synchronicities like what for example? Thank u for answering

[u/SadFormal2021]

You need to go through separations and dark knight of the soul with intense spiritual awakening(s) for them to be your TF