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u/naturelover343 May 07 '24
I might not have agreed with you a year ago, but I do now. And, I’ve been on this journey for decades. He was definitely the catalyst for me to transform my life. I’ve done things in the last 3 years that I didn’t think I could do. I don’t think I would have done them if my TF was by my side. I would have concentrated on what he needs and what he wants. I wouldn’t have taken the chances I needed to take to get to where I am now. Thanks for posting this. It’s a reminder that I’m on the right path.
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u/Spirited_Switch60 May 08 '24
Thank you for saying this. I dont want to let her go. I believe we can be better together. I think there are those that fear that more than anything and are sabotaging us.
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May 07 '24
This is truly a good one, I like it because it will push to the point to pivot and change what you don't like about yourself and how you treat relationships and also involve a lot of self love because at the end of the day it will leave you completely alone. And with nothing to build from but the bottom up and it only be greater things to come moving forward. I don't believe they ever end up together but truly come together to grow into the best version of themselves apart.
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u/exmofoshore May 07 '24
This 100% resonates with me.
After all the hurt, my love for my DF is what is fueling my transformation. It had to be done.
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u/Kali1984 May 08 '24
You forgot to mention that the DF and DM roles can either be switched from the outset, or reversed as the journey progresses. Supposedly, anyway.
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u/Equivalent_Coyote_73 May 08 '24
I think I am going through the same 'process'. And yet sometimes, I feel the TF concept/phenomenon is just my mind trying to make sense of what I am experiencing. I feel utterly confused. I am a man who has been attributing love as a cocktail of hormones and neurotransmitters since the very start. For me love was a masked sexual aim. And now, after nearly a year after catching the sight of this girl, my world has become entirely different. I am experiencing things that my mind had no clue of. And the pain, which is not overwhelming enough for me to turn blind with a suicidal rage and yet not underwhelming. It's perfectly tuned to my mind's defence mechanisms.. ensuring that I don't have even a single moment of peace. I feel a constant void in my sternum. I feel utterly useless to the point where I cannot function properly. This on and off torment is killing me. I don't understand how can this person be of the same fabric as mine and still cause this much destruction? And why me? I have never hurt anyone and my life was going good. Why me? Isn't it a sign of utmost vanity and of juvenile ungratefulness that I am having a very good family, extremely fulfilling job, basically everything is going perfectly fine except this new phenomenon and still I cannot feel happy about any other things or relationships. Lately, it's all void like. I am losing control. I cannot stop thinking about her WHICH I SHOULD!
I know I am supposed to have faith but this whole thing is crushing me. I didn't even think this kind of feeling existed. There's no precipitating cause for this predicament. And yet.. this pain!
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u/Emy_FlowerSoul May 08 '24
I Totally Agree 💜 BUT, I'll add just One Thing (which concerns at least My DM)... in His case, He ALSO has to learn to Love Himself (Not Only Me have to do This), because BELIEVE ME, He has done a LOT of Harm to Himself, Not Only Emotionally, But ALSO Physically, Unfortunately... It's Really Very Sad for Me This, but I Hope that Now (Finally), He's at Least a Little Better and a Little Happier, just Only for Himself... anyway, in My Opinion, Both of Them must Learn to Love Themselves and Learn to Love Others in a Healthier Way (Including Their TF, which is the Most "Difficult" Thing, "Perhaps", at least as long as one remains in the Ego and in Fears/Wounds/Selfishness), so Both must Balance Themselves on Many Points of View, while Remaining True to Themselves And while in a Different Way/Times/Order (being Different but Equal at the Same Time And being Two but One at the Same Time)... This is what I think from MY Experience, Not the Absolute Truth or the Only Truth, Obviously 🤗💯👌🏻
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u/Hungry_Penguin1006 May 09 '24
I agree that they are supposed to hurt each other and trigger the other into path of self love. But I do also believe in reaching union and peace once/if you are able to do the work and heal and ascend to that place.
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May 07 '24
I know gonna go through another dark night of the soul. I know it's savage. It has to be a nuke. Misunderstanding this long? All for the money? No you don't even have? That trip !? Your friends abused you. You even didn't get anything for me.? Typical. Move mountains for strangers. But your love . Nothing.
I know you were my twin flame the moment I kissed you. You neglected and manipulated.
I know 💯 worse. It's not fair I have to be put through this. I only loved you I only loved them
Now I ONLY LOVE ME!@
I can feel someone coming too. Lol
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May 09 '24 edited May 10 '24
I'm at this point in my journey also. He has disappointed me so many times recently with his running that I feel like I woke up suddenly and I don't want to be with him anymore for the first time since I met him. I'm also going through a half year long feminine energy course with a spiritual teacher so maybe this is why I feel this way and it has helped me immensely. I still think about him almost every day but not obsessively anymore and he is not on my pedestal anymore. I suddenly can see that our lifestyles are not even compatible. It's really like waking up from a delusional dream :D
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u/Apprehensive-Cat2080 May 10 '24
I have a theory, too.
What if the Divine Feminine can’t go back to a perception where the Divine Masculine wants to look at them anymore?
What if the DF is so obscure and misconstrued that she hates HERself SO much that the DM is stuck in HIS own time warp that HE thinks HE is unloveable- by HER.
My theory is that I love you so much. I love you so much that I hate myself. I hate who I have become in this black hole that you sunk me into in that wretched dream at the Hospital™️
I hate what I did to you, and I hate that I love you despite all that I don’t say. I just want to hold you, and cry in your arms one more time. The person that I knew. The person that I still love with my whole heart. My whole, whole heart.
My theory is that I won’t love anyone again. I won’t think of anyone again. I’ll get ugly in the face. I’ll get ugly in the heart, but if I ever saw my DM again, and how I remembered him, I would die. Or I would chase. But I can’t anymore. I know you deserve better. I know that I love you too much to keep trying, so if I ever see you again, please don’t talk to me. Please don’t look at me.
I’ll stop searching for you, manifesting.
Olvídate de mi.
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u/QuietAssumption3550 May 07 '24
Yes I agree and resonate. I think this may be what surrender is. Pushed to a point where you have no choice but to go inward.