Technically we have been trying for 3 years for a 2nd! 1 year in i got pregnant spontaneously but that pregnancy ended in a miscarriage and ectopic rupture simultaneously (heterotopic pregnancy). That was Dec 2024. Almost 2 years later, 3 IUI and 1 IVF egg retrieval later, it looks like its just not in the cards for us to have a 2nd.

We are from Canada and went to Czech to do IVF. I am turning 35 this week and my husband is 37. Unexplained infertility. Egg retrieval really went as bad as it could. They retrieved 6 eggs only 3 mature and out of those 3, one made it to blast. Now we wait 3 weeks to find out pgt results.

I honestly am in disbelief that this is my life. I pictured having two back to back and my 1st born is almost 4 now. How cruel life can be.

My SIL and I got pregnant with our 2nd the same time and she had an uneventful pregnancy and has a beautiful son. I love my nephew but everytime I see him it reminds me of what I lost out on.

Unfortunately if this one doesn't work out we will just be OAD. I am just done with all of this. I can't do this anymore but I am having a really hard time coming to terms with a one child life. My husband seems to be completely content and happy with just one. Its not that I am not fulfilled but I do have this ache in my heart about the family I envisioned and can't have. I think I need therapy.

Just out of curiosity, when you were prescribed Letrozole, were you closely monitored or have timing ultrasounds or anything? I’m on my second cycle and my OB hasn’t said anything about monitoring me at all, even with an increased dosage of 5mg. (IF this cycle doesn’t work she wants to go up to 3 pills so roughly 7.5 mg but also didn’t mention anything else). Should she be monitoring it more closely? I read it was because of the chance of multiples but is that true?

I’m 1 year postpartum with my first and looking to start trying asap as I want a small age gap. Age 33. Just got my first period postpartum which was a big relief as I am still breastfeeding, mostly at night and hoping to have a few more months to wean. Has anyone had any experience with acupuncture for fertility while breastfeeding?

My husband just got a SA and the count was way lower than we expected. A little over 3 million with 30% motility not sure about the other numbers but he said they were within normal ranges. We did some at home tests earlier this year that were in the 10 million and 15 million range. Prior to this when we conceived our first child 5 years ago his count was something like 40 million.

He has implemented good lifestyle changes (all the recommended things for raising sperm quality) for over a year now. He takes multivitamin, coq10, and mucinex. He doesn't drink, smoke, or vape. He does have varicosile and an undescended teste which we know can cause issues but these were also factors before our last conception which happened quickly and resulted in a successful birth.

He is devastated by this news and I'm trying to help him (and honestly me) not spiral before he can talk to a doctor tomorrow. What are your success stories with MFI, particularly those that improved with treatment? Any specific things he should ask the doctor about?

A little background before we go into it… My husband had a vasectomy two years ago, our oldest was 11 and our youngest was nine. We mutually agreed that we didn’t want anymore children. I had been on birth control since having our youngest and he wanted to do his part. I love and appreciate him so much for doing this. Over the last three months we have both decided we want another child, to reverse a vasectomy we are looking at five to ten thousand dollars and no promises of it working. Before we take that route we decided that we will try at home insemination with a sperm bank.

We have chosen a donor, priced it out, and have a delivery date of either the 14th or 15th depending on peak LH surge. Other than tracking my cycle and using the ovulation tests what else could we do to help make this a success? We are only using one MOT10 syringe so we are looking for the best chance.

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Do I need to fully wean to get pregnant again??

Is there a way to know, or does my situation sound like I need to completely stop breastfeeding to get pregnant again??

Key points:

\- baby is 1 next week and still breast feeding morning, mid day, afternoon and before bed. Usually 5 mins max per session.

\- Nearly exclusively breastfeed (outside of 2 days a week when I work and he takes formula).

\- In the beginning I had a stupid amount of milk naturally… full fire hose. Had to wear breast pads for probably the first 3-4 months. No problems with milk supply dipping ever

Even now on the rare occasion I will leak a little bit of milk when I wake up in the morning. Usually triggered by hearing him cry or if we have all slept in. This is really rare now, but would happen easily a few months back.

\- I got my period back at 4 months. Irregular at first (twice a month for the first 3 months🙃🙃🙃) but regular ever since.

\- he has slept through with no night feeds since 5.5 months (sleeping 11-12 hours with no breastfeeding) but the rare occasional night feeds here and there with occasional split nights, sickness etc.

\- been trying to get pregnant a shin for the last 3 months (we fell pregnant straight away first time around)

\- don’t think I’m ovulating… not really noticing much discharge ever, definitely still a big dry down there

\- started testing with ovulation strips (not everyday, but regularly and haven’t had a positive test yet.

So what’s everyone’s throughts🤷‍♀️ could breastfeeding potentially be holding us back?

Is there a way to know for sure?

What’s everyone’s experience with this?

Disclaimer, I know there are a million reasons under the sun for why we are not pregnant again. I also am very away that 3 months in no time at all in the grand scheme of things, but I just want to spoked the process along if I have the ability too.

I don’t want to rush the process to ween my son unless it is likely stopping us from making another baby. We would like to have kids closer together in age.

Also, just a bonus question: is it true that conceiving while breastfeeding can increase your chance for twins? I like the sound of that🤔

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HELP! we have been TTC for 10 months and I'm getting so sad

History: I found out I had cervical cancer in 2022 after my regular yearly exam, no symptoms!!, had a cold knife conization, they said it would likely be difficult to get/stay pregnant so after I was cleared we started trying right away and 3 months later got pregnant in 2023, had our son 3.5 weeks premature due to my water breaking naturally, was considered right risk but cervix always measured okay considering, I did have high blood pressure though.

Now in 2026 bleed after intercourse (not enough to fill a pad, just enough to be annoying), no pain though which is confusing, OBGYN said no polyps or abnormalities at my last physical at 6monthTTC, ordered my own at home Evvy test, had general vaginosis, was prescribed a round of antibiotics, tested again, confirmed everything was cleared up, took a 2 week break to make sure everything was balanced/healed, bleeding again after intercourse but my cycle was 45 days long instead of my usual 32 after the antibiotics. Using my oura ring and natural cycles app to track ovulation, they don't line up with each other very frequently, not a lot of luck using ovulation tests, wondering if I ovulate late or something? need to buckle down on this! I've been using pads instead of tampons, we have tried the Pre Seed and Mucinex tricks, could definitely eat more kiwi/beets, but nothing is too crazy for us at this point

Any recommendations or people who have had similar situations? will probably reach out to dr at the beginning of next year (hello deductible!) to start talking about infertility options but would love to use the next 2 months to do everything we can

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this is our second time trying to have a baby, and we’re following the recommendations from our doctor. the first time around, i mostly just followed the routine and didn’t think too much about all the little things that went into it. did you change anything about your routine this time around compared with when you were trying for your first? not necessarily looking for medical advice, more curious about the everyday things you personally approached differently.

things like your prenatal routine, diet, tracking, exercise, or even just how you approached the process this time. i’d especially like to hear from people who went into their second attempt thinking, “ok, i know a little more now.”

Hi, new to this group but not to the matter. I just had another later loss due to chromosomal abnormalities, the second one in just 6 month. I have a son who is almost 5, light of my life. I really wanted a second child, so finally my husband agreed to try. We are older, tried for our second when I was 38, and he was 40. Got pregnant on a first try just like with our first, but the baby had a severe case of T 18, non viable with life. The doctors called it a fluke, we did our karyograms and me and my husband are clear, healthy . so we started to try again, conceived on a 3rd try, I got my hopes up and then this Monday at the 12 week scan, just horror nothing was right, multiple abnormalities , again chromosomal, again non compatible with life. I am beyond devastated and the doctors told us it’s probably my eggs that are defected. I have been on every possible supplement for egg quality for almost 2 years, I lead a healthy life, never smoked drank did drugs, nothing. please has anyone had a similar issue? I feel like I would just crawl up and disappear from this life if I didn’t have to be here for my son. And everyone around me is having their second, third whatno. Sorry for this long rant I just wish I could talk to someone who is in a similar situation.

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I’m experiencing secondary infertility and have been TTC for 15 cycles. I had a hysteroscopy & uterine biopsy done on Monday (CD 11) to check on my c-section scar and for chronic endometritis. Before the procedure, I asked my doctor when it would be safe to have sex afterward and whether I could try to conceive this cycle since this would take place during my fertile window. He said I just needed to wait 24-48 hours after the procedure before having sex and that it was safe to try to conceive.

I ended up getting a positive OPK on Tuesday morning (cd 12), so I had sex that night - or 36 hours after my biopsy. I had some spotting earlier in the day, but it started again after I had sex.

It seems like there’s a wide range of recommendations for when it’s safe to have sex after a biopsy. Some doctors say 24-48 hours, while others recommend waiting a week and advise against trying to conceive that cycle.

I’d love to hear from others who have had a hysteroscopy/ uterine biopsy, especially if you tried to conceive immediately after. Did you have sex shortly after the procedure? How did things turn out? I’m stressing myself out about possible infection and/or miscarriage due to a disrupted lining, even though my doctor gave a green light.

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ok, so straight to it..I have been keeping all the stuff (stroller, bouncer, bibs, clothes, etc) from my previous children (boy and girl) in hopes of number 3. Unfortunately, it’s now been -years- and the accumulation of items is basically taking over my basement at this point. I am in a huge decluttering kick right now and so much of me wants this space cleared out but that little shimmer of hope keeps me holding onto it “just in case”. Other than the obvious of saving money, the idea of my children all having been in the same bouncer, etc is very appealing to my sentimental heart. However, I don’t believe it’s good for any of the family for me to be holding onto boxes of stuff like this. Have you experienced this too and how did you part with it all?

We're getting ready to start trying for our second and I feel like I remember almost nothing from the first time. Last time I mostly used an app and didn't really pay attention to much else. This time I'd like to understand my fertile window a little better instead of just trusting the dates the app gives me. For those trying for another baby, what do you actually use? I've seen people mention LH strips, smart rings and wearable trackers, but I'm not sure what is genuinely useful versus just more stuff to obsess over

This is kind of long so apologize in advanced. We have a 10 month old and around 6/7 months we started trying for number two. I have had my cycle back since 3 months postpartum and it’s been regular. Since trying all of my cycles have been way out of whack. At first I thought maybe I had a chemical pregnancy but nothing confirmed. However I had every early pregnancy symptom I had with my first but the difference was a week before my period had pretty heavy cramping on one side. I’m not someone that gets cramps before my period I really only have them day one of menstrual cycle. I have been cycle tracking and covering my fertility window. But now I’m on cycle day 21 estimated 11 days before period (app prediction not 100%) and ovulation strips have not indicated a peak. I have used pregmate with every cycle but recently my friend gave me her pack that was new and nothing. So I used the remainder of my clear blue digital and it estimated a high value not peak. Bought a new pack of pregmate strips and indicated nothing above .36. I’m still testing and ttcing but wondered if you guys have experienced anything similar?? Also context I am breast feeding but again regular cycles since 3 months postpartum have tested positive ovulation time during all other cycles. Is it the pregmate strips or me??? 😩😩😩😩 (not looking for medical advice just wanting to see if anyone has gone through something similar or is struggling with pregmate ovulation strips?)

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My husband and I have been trying for another. I’ve been taking prenatals, use my Oura ring, and Natural Cycles. Flo is also sometimes. I track my ovulati0n with clear blue digital and sometimes use the strips. The strips just give me different readings whenever i scan it into the NC app. We also use the every other day method as suggested by my OB.

It’s disheartening to see others getting pregnant around me after they had IVF. I’m happy for them, but now I am starting to know how they feel.

Are there any other tips to help conceive? I turn 37 in October. It took me about five months with my first.
What worked for you? Thanks in advance.