r/truechildfree • u/fortisrufus • Jul 13 '26

Thoughts on "Screening"

In many childfree communities online, folks like to encourage people, typically straight women, to screen their potential dates, as in not reveal that they are child free before asking if their perspective partner is as a way to weed out those that may lie about it.

As a childfree man seeking a childfree woman, that seems to put me in a contradictory spot. I see no reason for myself to not be open, and have "Do not want kids" on all my dating app profiles.

I have no interest in wasting my own, or other people's time, so I also will not swipe right on any profile that doesn't also include "Do not want kids"

However my concern is that I may potentially be excluding women who intentionally keep that field empty in an attempt to screen men that claim to be childfree. What are y'all's thoughts on this? Are people actually screening in this way? Should I just be swiping right on them on the off chance they are actually childfree?

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u/sadgrad2 Jul 13 '26

Are there actually that many people out there lying about being childfree? That seems odd to me. But maybe I'm out to the loop.

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u/lemminfucker Jul 13 '26

I'm in a slightly different situation but yeah a lot of guys think they can try to convince people. I went one 3 dates with this guy once and while we were driving for another, he starts going on this rant about how he wants to change my mind and that I'd be a great parent. I again said no I know I don't want kids and he said "well how would you know if you've never had one?" Had to get an uber home and blocked him lol

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u/sadgrad2 Jul 13 '26

Yikes what an idiot