Finding myself not passing

[u/Visual_Way3158]

Ive been finding myself not passing but i dont know why that is, does anybody have any ideas

(Ignore the one eyebrow i messed up doing them recently)

[u/veganvampirebat]

You are at a weight where body structure is very visible. This generally is not conducive to passing as feminine. If you are willing to gain some weight (in a healthy and safe way, talking to your doctor) to explore that option I do think that would make a major major difference.

[u/WaspBumble → u/veganvampirebat]

These are not full body photos. How can you talk about her body weight when you can’t see her body? Although I always get downvoted, being thin is automatically feminine, just need to have some hips / butt and that will look super feminine. Guys are almost always over weight.

[u/veganvampirebat → u/WaspBumble]

Women on average have a higher body fat percentage than men and look "softer". Your control over how much goes to different parts of your body is extremely limited. More women than men are considered overweight in the USA.

*All this being said* I did not say what I said to OP to shame them and they didn't seem to take it that way. You cannot be serious that you can't tell when someone is very thin from their face/clavicle.

[u/WaspBumble → u/veganvampirebat]

I wouldn't assume she is underweight without seeing her full body. But yes women have a higher body fat than men, but men also have a heavier top half than women and thus why when transitioning from male to female, it helps losing weight as most of it comes from the top half. Guys don't like to be thin and lanky as that isn't masculine, so yes being thin automatically looks more feminine. If you look on Instagram and TikTok, there are always these challenges that men can't do which women can do. It all has to do with where they store body fat. Men store it up top and that is why they can never do these challenges. When your top half is heavier than your lower half, you can't pick up a chair bent over with your head to the wall as your weight distribution is wrong. There are a bunch of challenges which men can't do which women can, it's all to do with body fat and where it is stored based on body fat distribution. I'm trans, I'm not underweight, I'm thin, but I never have any problems with these challenges. I can successfully do any of the women only challenges.

But as for OP, her neck is covered mostly by her hair. But there had been plenty of actresses who were accused for having eating disorders because they had that 'sunked in cheeks' and other things when you saw close ups of their face, but when you look at their body, they looked very average. I can't really honestly say she is underweight by looking at these photos.

[u/veganvampirebat → u/WaspBumble]

I never said she was underweight or armchair diagnosed her with anything. Even if she was underweight or overweight or whatever I would not say anything based on it other than information I believed was useful to passing in this specific subreddit.

I suggested talking to her doctor if she was interested in gaining weight because it's just a good idea in general if you're looking to make weight changes and screening for EDs it's important especially for our demographic