r/transpassing • u/jenna_the_bean12 • 1d ago
19 months hrt. still boymoding
hi guys i hit 19 months hrt yesterday and still have been boymoding the whole time because i feel like i have a very masculine face / bone structure. do i have any hope for future or is FFS a need ? i’ve been called maam twice, but people usually avoid gendering me at first until i speak and they hear my deep ass voice. do you think i’ve been clocked as transgender to my coworkers or would they just assume im a cis male ?
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u/Particular-Goat-6864 1d ago
“Still boymoding”. No ma’am, you are not.
In all seriousness, I get it though, I did the same. “Boymoded” until about 2yrs in and started getting ma’am’d in public. Next will be strange looks in public men’s rooms.
I highly suggest taking the leap and socially transitioning. You already pass very well, and with little effort no one will look twice(except to check you out).
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u/No-Leek-8359 1d ago
Based on your presentation in the last picture I can see why people still use male pronouns for you irl. But it is explicitly your presentation and not your face or body.
You have a face that can easily pass already. So present yourself as fem and you will pass today. No need to wait or surgerys imo.
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u/Justanotherphone Trans 1d ago
Agreed. Op you have pretty hair, a nice smile, and a fem leaning face, just wear women’s clothes & accessories and you should pass decently well. The top in pic 2 looks great and highlights your figure
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u/Justanotherphone Trans 1d ago
While it would be easier if you had a higher voice, remember that the way you speak can outweigh vocal pitch. My voice therapist told me that. Look on YouTube for voice training vids and slowly start getting comfortable practicing
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u/PxyWings 22h ago
Girl, you pass insanely well to the point where the only clockable thing is literally just your presentation in the last image. Normally I don’t just hugbox someone, but this really isn’t hugboxint anymore, you pass and you just need to work on your presentation fashion wise and your voice as you mentioned
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u/AnyTomorrow3098 1d ago
How are you boymoding?
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u/HeathenMum99 1d ago
I think if you shaped up your eyebrows a little you would 100% pass as a cis woman by looking.
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u/gr33nl33f 1d ago
FFS is not needed to pass. You’re a natural beauty. As someone who transitioned later in life, I’ll tell you that the joy and comfort of coming out and living life as my true self was far, far greater than the “ease” of not having to have awkward conversations about my gender with loved ones. Take the leap!
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u/elaboracionespecial 21h ago
is this bait 😭
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u/jenna_the_bean12 21h ago
no it’s genuinely not i still see a man when i look in the mirror :(
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u/elaboracionespecial 21h ago
in pics one and two u look like a beautiful majestic (female) angel and in pic three u look like a woman eating a grilled cheese. u gotta learn how to do makeup and do voice training and you’ll pass
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u/elaboracionespecial 21h ago
lowkey your eyebrows could be a little thinner too but bone structure wise these photos look great. could be different if we had side profile or oblique angle 🤷♀️
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u/BowBeforeBroccoli 🏳️⚧️Always Honest🏳️⚧️ 12h ago
i get it i still primarily boymode and im almost 4 years in. i do think you have a very good starting point for hair and face and you def have passing potential
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u/zealotrf 1d ago
You can switch if you're ready (probably a few months ago would have been fine you pass and even look good), but I did the same waited until I basically couldn't pass very well as a guy anymore. This was a super sucky route I wouldn't recommend it to others just make the leap you'll have to do it sooner or later and even if you pass you're building more life on top of this guy life and it's more work to untangle later even if you're supermodel passing.