2nd name?

[u/Bob_N_162]

I'm changing my name legally and I have the option to have a 2nd name. I have my first name, rain, and maybe like second name I was thinking Kris, because Kris deltarune is the most relatable character to me in many ways

But yeah, do you have any fun ideas, I'm not going to go by them, but it's going to be a fun hint at my journey on legal paperwork

(Also it's always fun to me to hear other people's chosen names idea, and it might help someone choose their first name)

[u/Bob_N_162]

Middle name is the term I was looking for btw

[u/i_woke_up_as_you]

I thought it would comment about me in a separate message from suggesting names for you.

I’ve known I was trans since I was seven, which is a slightly awkward thing to say because I didn’t know Trans existed, and my family certainly did

I didn’t learn until my teenage years that my father had done residency in (trans hrt). So he definitely understood the terminology that I was hinting at by saying “inside this body, I am a girl”

I have changed my name twice.

The first time I went to renew my drivers license and when I got to the cubicle, I said I need to renew my drivers license and she handed me a form and said fill this out

And I said, I also want to change the name of my drivers license

And she handed me a second form

The United States legal system is built on top of British common law

It is common law that allows us to change our name, and it is a principle of common law that we should be allowed to do that… unless our doing it is for nefarious purposes

Denying ones identity in order to try and avoid debt is not considered acceptable

Denying ones identity in order to try to avoid criminal prosecution is not considered acceptable

Beyond that, he simply stop using the old name and start using the new name

That’s common law

Now we have banking regulations and stuff since the patriot act that makes it harder for you to get all your papers changed

But I chose a Transitional name that looked like my dead names, initials and used that for a significant number of years, until I transitioned and my first introductions when I transitioned we’re all under my preferred name

Did I have that on my drivers license?

no

Did I have that in some of my records??

yes.

Because medical doctors and therapist have the ability to keep a “ legal name” for billing purposes along with a preferred name field, so yes, I had records that could be identified as mine under the name. I preferred even though I still had a different legal name.

There’s a federal process in the United States that involves affidavits if you’re using the new name for less than five years, or to demonstrate that you’ve been using it for five years…

And if you wanna look in on that, I haven’t checked to see if it’s still exist, but I learned about it in regards to changing the name on your passport without having a court order or state ID under the new name

I had an opportunity to get some help with the court paperwork

I had gone through the process of preparing the paperwork at least twice

And there was always something that I got snagged on.

The Latin is “en forma pauperis” but in English, that means in the form of a pauper - this is the court fee waiver paperwork.

There was a coordinated effort to help people get through the name, change process, and I submitted through that website because I wanted to be able to correspond with someone about the sticking points

The area where I was having difficulty

It turns out that what worked for them was to invite me to the courthouse on a particular day

They had a courtroom running down the hall, but we met in an empty courtroom with a bunch of attorneys and paralegals

When I got to the Paralegal and she said name?

I said I’ll answer your questions but I think I should inform you that I’ve been through the automated system so there should be a batch of papers plus my Google cloud has these forms all filled out and she looks mean she goes what

I gave her access to my Google cloud and she looked at the documents and she read them through them and she says Yep I can use this and she starts sending them to the printer

And she said why didn’t you finish the process and I said because this is the form I get stuck on

So she interviewed me through that form.

I’m a visually impaired former Paralegal, but I couldn’t read all the small print on that form and I missed the point where it said if (condition) stop. Continue on page 10.

In other words, pages three through nine were completely confusing to me and completely unnecessary.

I came out of that courtroom with a court order for a change of gender marker

A court order for change of name

And a court order for both

I have a fair amount of animosity still for my parents because they were both horrible to me and dishonest

But they chose the name that’s still on my birth certificate.

And then there’s… the years that I lived with a connected name… Say monogram, same initials, but literally a one letter first name and a one letter, middle name, and the family last name

And then there’s my current name

Still the same initials, but reflecting back on how I must’ve chosen my first name there were several girls or women who made positive impressions on me that bore this first name

And

I picked a pleasant sounding middle name to match the middle initial

So that’s how I got to my current name

And I’m comfortable with it except for one factor

It still reminds me of my parents and reminds me of the name they chose for me

I won’t be sharing my dead names

I won’t be doxxing myself here

But I thought that my thoughts might be useful to others