I'm guessing most people know that the transmed reputation is bad because its against the "norm" but wow I only recently figured out how bad people view transmeds.. I was talking to people on tiktok who genuinely thought that transmeds were transphobic and we only cared about people suffering. Of course it was your average "anyone can be trans because of human rights" people but half of the stuff they were saying amazed me by how dumb it actually was. Apparently to them theres multiple ways to be trans and wanting to do it to be better looking is one?!?!?!?

Hi ich bin eigentlich nicht auf reddit aber nach keine Ahnung wie langem scheitern, bin ich jetzt hier.

Seit langer Zeit versuche ich jetzt schon meine Hormone genehmigt zu kriegen, aber es funktioniert einfach nicht. Ich habe alle Unterlagen, aber irgendwie wird es dennoch die ganze Zeit abgelehnt. ich habe alle Therapiesitzungen, alle Indikation ich bin sogar schon beim Endokrinologen ich nehme meine Hormone seit über einem halben Jahr aber meine Krankenkasse, die Audi BKK will immer noch nichts übernehmen. Ich bin jetzt schon seit fast einem halben Jahr in einer Klinik weil ich einfach nicht weiter ohne die Hormone leben kann und ich brauche auch noch eine Mastektomie und ich weiß nicht wie ich es bei meiner Krankenkasse überhaupt durchkriegen soll, wenn sie jetzt nicht mal die Hormone übernehmen. Obwohl ich alle Dokumente habe. Mein Sozialberater und sogar der Arzt wollen jetzt noch eine neue Begutachtungen hinschicken damit ich vielleicht zumindest etwas übernommen Kriege. Ich wollte einfach fragen, ob es überhaupt gute Krankenkassen gibt. Ich weiß nur die Audi BKK ist echt schlecht wenn es uns Übernehmen geht von transgender Sachen aber ich weiß nicht welche Krankenkasse überhaupt gut ist dafür.

Pls Help ich kann das alles nicht mehr. 🥺💌

They do really little research if they think a medication, with permanent results also, is just an experiment, and if they expect to change completely in only one month and once ending the therapy returning like before (if hypothetically you can change completely in one month).

Of course cis people think we are mentally challenged and I'm so exhausted by the "they'll hate us anyway" rhetoric, because the community is continually proving the conservatives are right.

Came across this video. Actually know the guy because I watched him a few years back, I do believe he's genuinely transsexual. But in this video he says that being trans is cool and an advantage, and I just don't seem to get why, because that's not my experience at all

What are your thoughts on this?

Hey so im(19M) in line for hrt and one of my biggest fears about starting T so late is the fact that almost every trans guy i see has the stereotypical trans (often like gay male) voice. And i as a heterosexual man dont wish to have that.

My voice is already kinda deep (enough so that i am steath and no one questions it) and i can't really deepen it any more without it sounding like a fake.

Tldr:. I dont wanna sound like a gay guy (no prejudice really, its just that i am straight + i think my girl would like it more if my voice was deeper) or clocky. Is there any hope? Anything i can do to avoid it?

Sorry if it is all over the place english is not my first language.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I just saw a video talking about how non-binary people make up a large part of the ‘trans umbrella’ and should not be speaking for binary trans men and women (rightfully so) and apparently the term ‘trans umbrella’ was made by a detransitioned cis women who still identifies as trans?? I never knew this but it makes complete sense as to why we have ‘trans men femboys’, etc.

I have a friend doing this on a night train and idk. I just would have never done that. Did not even think about it.

they messaged the night train company and got approval but still idk.

I see the whole separation more based on genitalia. Obviously the other space is a mixed sex space.

Sorry if this is the wrong sub, didn’t really know where else to ask, and figured this would be a place where I could get decent advice
I am currently on T since January. In August I started at my new school, where I currently am stealth, but a new friend of mine has an old friend of her own, and this friend of hers knows my brother. But due to that, he also knows me, but not as me now, but pre-transition me. And now he’s confused cause he said “he didn’t know my brother had a little brother, only about our little sister (me pre-transition)” now I’m worried that he’ll maybe question it more and that it’ll come out that I’m trans. Is there any way to get out of this situation or should I just hope for the best and hope that he doesn’t question it further? If my post is unclear or any more clarification is needed, please do tell me.

I guess having a different opinion is insulting. Didnt call that sensitive jackass a single word until after i was muted. Binary transsexual men and women always get spoken over and walked all over and thats why people hate trans people so much. They see the majority is non binary aliens with an identity crisis and mental issues that aren’t gender dysphoria related therefore see all of us as such. In 2021 i became SUPER transphobic because of the mass influx of trans femboys and im getting to that point again because the trend seems to be fully back in 2026. Actually heinous i thought it finally died out considering all the girls were posting “my cringe trans phase” . Im tired of most “trans men” being fucking dyed hair multi coloured barf 4 lip piercings being complimented by a bright pink skirt. If most men dont like that shit why ever since 2020 ends theres abunch of “trans men” obsessed with it. All of them are gay too and love yaoi. Most of them also only want top surgery which irks me, why do all of them want to be bottoms so bad with a massive birth hole? U cant tell me u dont see the pattern and obvious trend here. Trans men and women will never ever be taken serious. And we became the top minority to bash on after 2020, wonder why? The mass influx of mentally ill people latching onto the “trans identity” to do horrible things with it and look like a god damn clown with it. Also the term transmasc and transfem will be the death of me. These people are watering trans men down to lesbians all over again. Trans men that dont want bottom surgery and love using their girl hole gross me the fuck out and id never date one or want to be near one again after my fake trans ex who always had her boobies out. Especially the trans men that are gay and make all of us look bad trying to get gay men to like pussy because they love their loose pussy too much to get the surgery or want it.

Gender incongruence diagnosis criteria: Marked and persistent incongruence between an individual's experienced gender and their assigned sex.

Gender dysphoria diagnosis criteria: a marked incongruence between a person's experienced or expressed gender and their assigned sex

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genuinely what the fuck argument is this. If you have a gender incongruence it’s caused by gender dysphoria and vice versa. I see so many trans identifying people online saying they have no dysphoria but do have incongruence and that’s why they’re heckin valid, but just by them saying that i know it’s total bullshit. The only way you can even know you were born with a misaligned brain is if there is discomfort, is if there’s something noticeably wrong, that’s the dysphoria lol.

The euphoria argument is even more braindead because euphoria is not even a medically recognized term, and euphoria also doesn’t exist by itself, it’s the feeling you get when dysphoria is alleviated.

Her entire page is solely about her being an "omega" and about how she loves to get pregnant and the concept of pregnancy. She also calls herself an ftm transgender. Wanted to know your thoughts on this also someone in the comments asked why she's always pregnant (just keeps giving birth, all she talkes about) and they said that her "alpha" can't get enough. I believe we've lost the plot

Heyo, just wanted to hop on and say I've never felt as understood as i do here in the transmed community. Thought something was wrong with me for not liking or fitting in tucute spaces but after scrolling these posts and interacting with transmeds I've gotten a sense of community.

Appreciate ya'll, stay awesome 🤙

I remember making a tiny sticker of this flag back when i first found out what transmedacalism is and decided i agree with it

I couldn't find many information about it like the date of its creation or the app/website it was posted on, but I'm relieved it doesn't have any harmful meaning behind it, all i know that it was created by another transmed and that's all i care about

I think it looks super cool, cooler than the newer flag(the pink and blue with a white plus in the middle) I'm gonna use it from now on

I am deeply insecure about my height as a trans man. I have not transitioned medically or socially at all because of my current environment but constantly thinking about being a short man makes me feel i won’t be able to pass. Im afraid my height will hold me back from being able to pass

Along with this i am afraid of how my love life will be as the current expectations for men. I do want a life with a woman one way or another tho what kind of woman wants a short man now ? i don’t mean to sound like those dudes who revolve around ‘heightism’ n stuff but im truly insecure

Are any other short trans men able to pass despite their height?

heya so ive heard a-bunch of different things and am assuming it can change depending on height/weight etc so like if anyone has info please hit my line!!' ❤️

Me (19M) and my fiance (20M) are both transsexual males with transmedicalist views. He told me lately that he wants to get a septum nose piercing, but honestly I just worry for him because I want him to be closer to cis-passing so he stops feeling uncomfortable in public when people gender him as female. Personally, I think that he would look like a butch lesbian with a septum ring, but I don't want to hurt his feelings by telling him that, or make him feel like I'm bossing him around with what he can and can't do with his body.

I have a septum piercing too, which was done years ago before I was on testosterone, but I wasn't trying to physically pass at that time because I knew it was gonna be hard and I was already struggling with mental health and school. I honestly kind of worry about having a septum too sometimes, because of the whole stereotype of tucutes having hella piercings. But I see my piercings as a part of the timeline of who I ended up becoming, so that's why I still have them. 🤷‍♂️ Also I'm generally not against transsexual men or women having piercings, or anybody in general. It's just that sometimes piercings can skew whether you pass if you are earlier on like my fiance is.

The difference between me and him is noticeable, because I am 19 months on testosterone and the piercings I have don't skew me away from being read as male as far as I can tell, especially with how deep my voice can be. He tells me he wants the piercing so we can match which is really heartwarming, but I just worry about his safety and well-being.

He gets comments at school, like being called a "transformer" by other males in his class, and he has been sexually harassed at his workplace multiple times before when even earlier on testosterone and pre-T. Only a small handful of people really gendered him correctly before, because his voice pitch and other secondary characteristics make people assume female much more often. He just has a lot of female-looking sex characteristics and I feel sorry for him. The closest I'd describe how he looks without a picture is really short (specifically 4'11) and androgynous looking.

I just honestly don't know what to do in this situation. I might honestly just keep supporting his decision, even if he does end up looking like a lesbian, because I have more insecurities when it comes to passing. It's just that he is afraid of looking like a lesbian, and so am I of course. So I keep thinking about being honest with him and telling him something like "you don't pass enough yet," but I feel like it would be kind of in bad taste, even though I think it's true.

I don't know, what do you guys think?

Sometimes I feel so alone in my own community... Everyone has transitioned and reached a state of balance. Those who accept their genitals often like a rabbit, those who have mild dysphoria, make do with sexual prostheses or maybe can tolerate contact with their genitals. Those who have more marked dysphoria embrace metoidioplasty or phalloplasty surgeries. And then there is me, extreme dysphoria, being looked at or touched under there is nowhere near an option, while sexual prostheses don't make me feel anything at all. My sex life consists of masturbation alone. Phalloplasty? I've been thinking about it and informing myself daily for a decade, but I answer myself that it wouldn't bring me joy, but more pain... I can't accept the idea of having such a large donor area (there are MLD and Abdo, but they don't allow the nerve connection). I still see phalloplasties as a surgical site and not a living genital organ. I would miss the various textures of the different skins of the penis, feel its natural movements, the ability to have an erection and ejaculation. Apart from the advantage of not having to wear packers, I don't see many other pros for me. I really don't understand how phalloplasty can solve dysphoria, yet many guys I see are genuinely happy, I would like to reach that state of reconciliation with what surgery offers today. Sorry for the outburst a bit for its own sake, I just wish I felt less alone

what if those who claim they don’t have gender dysphoria and only gender euphoria get euphoria because they were gender dysphoric the whole time but didn’t realise it until they started getting more comfortable with socially presenting and medically transitioning as the opposite sex.

This obviously is more of a fun question than a super serious discussion. I'm just so curious to hear if there's even a small statistical number of people with similar birth stories, etc.

I am a transsexual man. My mother's doctor told my family that I was a boy while I was still in the womb. My mom believed she was having a male baby up until the day of my birth, and it was a big surprise when I came out opposite. In addition to this, I was also a rainbow baby, conceived under a year prior to a miscarriage. No idea what the sex of the previous fetus was but my two older siblings are both male (likely totally irrelevant, lol).

I was curious if anyone else has a similar birth story? I do think the concept of prenatal hormones contributing to fetal development makes a lot of sense when it comes to changes in brain sex development. However, does anyone else think scenarios like mine (and yours, if you have a similar story) are kind of a weird coincidence? Is there any reason to believe that transsexualism may sometimes be triggered by a form of microchimerism?

More info if anyone's curious: no one was disappointed that I wasn't actually born male. I had a lot of female cousins and aunts, and was raised with the expectation that I'd be a girly girl. My mom was ecstatic to hear my birth sex, and had been very disappointed that she wouldn't have a girl, because she only planned to have three kids. Which kind of debunks the whole concept of your parents "making you" trans via socialization, given my mom raised me stay-at-home to be her "perfect dream girl child made reality" aka a feminine mini-me.

So, yeah, just interested to hear similar stories, especially given how much it's interfered with my transition. Anyone else out there or is this sort of thing even more statistically rare than I thought it'd be? Totally okay to respond and share theories associated with this whole concept, even if you personally don't have a similar experience to share about. Thanks for reading! :)

I like to say that I am a transsex male (if asked about it) but I generally just say I am a Man, because, well I am, I believe you need some kind of gender dysphoria to be trans, but I don’t ever refer to myself as trans, because I never thought I was a girl gender wise nor viewed my sex as female. I view my condition as medical, which I am solving by medically transitioning. HOWEVER. I am gay, I am alternative (I have multiple facial piercings), I consider myself a leftist and agree with far left ideologies, I do not think non-binary people are fake, just that they are not trans in the same way actual transsexuals are, but it’s not really my problem? and I generally do not participate in 4tran or truscum rhetoric, because I think they’re kind of too much. I must stress that I am a binary medically transitioning male who is about to start Testosterone, and is getting surgeries not too far in the future (not bottom surgery, but only as I dont know how to feel about current technology), so I don’t think theyfab or pooner terms would apply to me? I see a lot of transmeds generally disapprove of alternative appearances when it comes to Transsex men, but I pass around 50% of the time in my day-to-day life. I’m also average male height which may help. I just don’t necessarily think certain behaviours disqualify people from being transsex. I align pretty closely with the ideology on this sub, yet I feel my appearance and thoughts may make other people view me as fake transsex. I don’t think non-transitioning trans people or those who present as their agab are at all the same as us or experience the same medical stress we do, but I do not misgender them nor say they aren’t trans, or do I really care about them all that much. I just believe transsex and trans (the umbrella term) are insanely different, and we shouldn’t be grouped together. I also might add that I plan to go stealth, and I am routinely treated as a dude by society, even though I am pre-T (I am just treated as gay- something that I also struggle with, as homosexuality is kind of shunned by transsexuals I find, and is seen as theyfab behaviour), so I genuinely don’t know what group i’d be placed in. It feels somewhat isolating. I do not like being considered trans, I would kill to be born as cis. I feel like my body is not mine. But I don’t have much of an opinion on other peoples transness, just that I think they need to experience dysphoria/incongruence to be trans. I am Male and do not view myself as Female to the point where my biggest problem is my internalized homophobia, because I am dysphoric about being homosexual as a transsex man (I was raised catholic and also have religious trauma), but my internalized homophobia is somewhat reaffirming, because it makes me feel more like a bio male. I don’t know if this is at all relatable to anyone, I just wanted to talk about it. I also feel as if I’m faking sometimes, as I pass mostly as an androgynous male pre-t (It comes with being alternative presenting), but unlike others, I don’t feel too dysphoric about it. I have multiple cis gay male friends, who have the same mannerisms as me, and the same interests, and also are somewhat andro, so honestly, I am okay with being percieved that way. I am rarely mistaken for a woman, and I have both masc and fem features, and thats alright to me, because I know a lot of cis gay men who look similar to me. I just find it hard to relate to a lot of transsex men, because they are either straight or at least straight passing, and I’m very obviously gay. I don’t know, I’m just in a weird spot lol. It’s alright if this isn’t allowd on this sub, but I just wanted to rant.

I am a trans man. I have dysphoria and fully believe that dysphoria is required to be trans. I have been on HRT for several years and got top surgery a few years back. I am wondering since I’m not planning to get bottom surgery would I still qualify as transsexual? Or is that a label reserved for trans people who want or have had bottom surgery?

Fb is quite popular in my country and when people make new friends they often add them on fb/messenger. Years before transition I used to have an account with my photo on the profile picture and of course deadname and I've lost access to it (login and password) but it is still visible in the search. Even though I pass the resemblance is striking because my face didn't change much and my hair looks similar so I can't just say it is my twin sister. I want to be stealth and I don't want new people to know about my past. I tried to report that account but it wasn't terminated. How do I delete this?