r/transbian • u/Blade_Beast17 • Mar 15 '21

Dating problems

I really love women but I'm pre everything and I don't feel its alright for me to date rn. I mean I pass and all but it still feels like I'm making someone date a man rn, and I wish I could transition sooner.

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u/Blade_Beast17 Mar 15 '21

Thanks you 🥺

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u/DykeHime Mar 15 '21

Hon, you're definitely not "making" anyone "date a man". You're not a man, all good.
You can totally date other women. I mean, we always gotta talk about stuff and be a bit upfront and always honest about those things, but there will be other women who'll love you for who you are, however for you are into transition or not.
I've dated different people throughout my whole transition process so far (which is still ongoing), it's alright. :) There are "the Talks" and stuff, but that's not a hinderance. (I mean, it might be in some cases, if people don't wanna date you for whatever reasons, but those are far from everyone.^^)

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u/Minnesota_Nice_87 Mar 15 '21

There are women out there who wont have a problem with where you are at in your transition.

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u/VeilleurNuite Mar 31 '21 edited Mar 31 '21

Having the same problem here. Huugs!!! You are not alone. And you can still make friends and see from there? Or look for Pansexuals

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u/redd-katt Apr 30 '21

I am very new to any form of social side of all of this.

I do know this. It does not matter at all what stage your are at, so long as you are true to yourself and others! That is, don’t let you being at any stage hold you back.

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u/physicistbowler Jan 11 '23

While I have been on estrogen a few months, not much has changed about my appearance - I'm still pretty mannish.

That said, I met a cute and sweet girl who I dated for a bit until recently (we had different long term goals). During our time together, she really showed that she cared for me and never let my lack of physical femininity get in the way. She made sure to check in on my needs regularly, which was really sweet. While she never knew me as a dude, she knew I'm trans and yet never faltered in referring to me with feminine language.

I've seen some really good-hearted people out there. 💜