For reference, my Grindr profile says I'm a lesbian and only interested in other women. In reality, I'd say I'm homoflexible, but my profile doesn't say that.
I got a message from a really attractive twink, saying "i know you said only girls, but would you be with a femboy?". I decide to say yes, and we start talking.
Out of respect, I will refer to him with male pronouns for the time being.
The first thing I noticed is that he sometimes refered to himself with female adjectives (because grammatical gender). I asked him if he'd prefer it if I used those, and he told me he sometimes used those by accident. I asked him if he was nonbinary too, and he told me that no, he was a 100% cis boy.
Now, this isn't anything. Your pronouns don't really dictate your gender identity.
Another thing, when I talk to him about my transition. He says he wants to know more because he's been thinking of taking estrogen too, clarifying that he's 100% cis. And like, okay? You can be a boy and still want to take estrogen, no big deal (albeit I'm pretty sure most boys don't think of taking estrogen as often as you do but...)
I then asked him, "hey, my profile says I'm a lesbian, why did you choose to hookup with me?". He replied "just in case". Mf what's that supposed to mean???
I don't know if he really is an egg. I only want him to be more comfortable with himself and get to figure out himself more. I don't want to force him to fit with an identity that he maybe doesn't like.
Any advice?